31 August 2008

No expectations yield . . .

. . . excellent results.

I really tried—and I think I mostly succeeded—to go into today's coffee date with no expectations. How much can you really know about someone based on an internet profile and a few e-mail exchanges? Not much, and I tried my best not to flesh things out with my own made-up details, tempting as it was.

We had a great time. We spent about an hour chatting over coffee, then we took a stroll and ate some ice cream. Coffee + ice cream = near-perfection for me, so on that alone, the afternoon would not have been a total loss.

What was even better was that we had a lot to talk about. His work is really interesting. We talked a lot about our kids, and showed off pictures. He asked about John, in a really kind and gentle way, and handled the resulting delicate situation with grace, poise, and compassion. In between kid stories, we talked of world travels, politics, and bits and pieces of our backgrounds.

We also talked about what we'd like to do the next time we get together. He travels a ton for work and will be a way for a little while starting tomorrow, but a dinner date is brewing for when he returns.

Don't worry, I'll keep you posted.

46 comments:

Anonymous said...

Yay! Sounds like a really nice afternoon, and good company. I can't wait to hear all about your next date!
- Heather

P. Gardiner said...

I'm so happy for you! It is great that you had a good experience your first time back in the pool.

Goddess in Progress said...

Nice! Glad it was an enjoyable afternoon.

tousquireste said...

That sounds like an amazing afternoon - whatever comes next,I'm glad you had this nice experience with someone kind and interesting. yay!

Laura ~Peach~ said...

wonderful news I am glad you got out and had an enjoyable time!

Becca said...

That sounds great! I'm so glad it went well.

Ginevra said...

Yaaaayyyyy! Don't know if you saw my email advising low expectations, but if not, you obviously had the same brilliant idea. I thought about you and your date ALL DAY and hoped it went well and then checked your blog as soon as I got home to see if you'd posted a report, which you hadn't (yet). Glad I checked again! So so happy you had a good date!

xo,
J

Giovanna Diaries said...

Phew! So glad it turned out good. Like in all things, the firsts are always the hardest.
You did it! Congrats!

Astrogirl426 said...

Oh that's awesome. He sounds like a really nice guy. Good luck on the next dinner date! :)

Robin J. said...

I smiled all the way through your post. So glad that you enjoyed yourself. And don't you think it is fun to look forward to something?!

Allison said...

Oh, yay! I'm so glad for you! Your not a date sounded so pleasant and fun.

Rachel said...

So glad it went well.

bostongirl said...

Really, really happy to read this post! Hope you enjoy the long weekend.

mlg said...

--smile--

That is nice news.

Does he know you are a blogging superstar? It wold be temping to read up on my dates to see how it went from the other side of the table : )

A very interesting thing.. my Word Verification word just below this box is "whzihot" Which clearly reads, was he hot? hhmmm....

Anonymous said...

I remember my first date after my husband died. It was a friend from my young widows/widowers support group. I told him I would go out with him for "practice". We've been married for eighteen years this September.
Nancy

Snickollet said...

Nancy--

That is such a sweet story!

MLG--

He does not know about the blogging--I'm keeping that on the down-low for now. A girl needs some secrets!

As for the hotness . . . definitely attractive. Tall, stylish glasses, nice smile. I'll go with yes.

-snick

Jamie said...

Sounds like a great afternoon -
Yes, please keep us posted.

Watercolor said...

Excellent!

kim said...

Hurray - you made it over the hurdle... and had a nice time to boot!

Jody said...

I am so, so happy for you. It must be such weird territory for you, but how nice to have someone to share the afternoon with. Brains + interesting + good looks + ice cream sounds like a perfect Sunday!

Keen said...

Wow, that sounds so nice! I'm so glad you had a good time. And you really can't go wrong with coffee and ice cream--that sounds like a great way to spend the afternoon.

Beth said...

I am truly happy for you. Hooray for lovely afternoons. :-)

frostine said...

I kept thinking of you, too. (Especially because I happened to be in Boston.) I'm so glad it went well.

Laura said...

Ah! I'm so happy for you I could squeal! I'm just so glad it worked out and you had a good time. Here's to wishing you more good times and good conversation (and good ice cream) in the future!

Mainly a midwife said...

I just happened upon your blog..don't know who you are but I am filled with admiration. You are a great mom!!! I'm going to be a regular reader! Can't wait for the next post.

Kathryn said...

How lovely to read about something happy :-)
So glad you had fun xx

Mama Mama Quite Contrary said...

Yay! Yay! Yay! Sounds like a wonderful way to spend an afternoon away from the kiddies. Looking forward to hearing more.

Caustic Cupcake said...

AWESOME!

Anonymous said...

Fantastic! Just ease along and enjoy yourself!!!! :)

Wolf said...

how great for you! :)

Melissia said...

Snick, so glad that you had a lovely time. Sometimes as moms we need the reminder from others that we are still attractive, interesting adults ( and women). So glad you got you got that reminder, even if you didn't need it!

Anonymous said...

WOW! Those are great results for a first first date!! :) --CA

moo said...

Hooray! I'm so happy for you!

And on a totally shallow note ... what did you wear?

Claudia said...

Wowsa! Sounds amazing. So glad your first online dating experience didn't suck.

Pam said...

Sounds like a lovely afternoon. I would love to know if you feel any spark potential though. Was he good looking? Did you see a picture of him before the meeting?

Clover said...

Oh, I'm so glad. He sounds very nice. Hope the dinner date goes just as well.

Anonymous said...

fantastic! that is good that you had a good time on your first time out. He sounds like a nice person. and for him to ask about John in a "gentle way" was really nice and considerate of him.
keep enjoying yourself. You truely deserve it.

thanks for the update!

Charlie said...

Good for you Snick!

What A Card said...

You're awesome! :)

Amelie said...

yay! sounds great!

amber said...

:) so happy to hear this.

Anne said...

So glad to hear it was a good time, Snick!!

Lyndsay said...

oh that's good! that's really, really GOOD!!!

Molly said...

You are amazing to be able to handle everything you do, and DATE?! I hope anyone you choose to spend time with, brings as much to the table as you seem to.

Silver said...

So glad you had a good time, and it wasn't with some crazy!

~ Jolene said...

a little late in the game but here I am...I'm so happy for you. Whatever happens, so great to hear you had a lovely time.