Just remember that you don't have to respond right away. You can ponder, think about it and decide when it is right for you. A few years ago I used an online dating service (met my future husband) and I actually made quite a few friends too. Good luck and have fun with it!
Kick back, relax and have fun... You can make a girls night out of it and have a couple of girlfriends look them over with you, you know get the seal of approval from the gang. Have a great weekend!
Good for you. And just remember, the appropriate amount of time to grieve a loved one is however long you feel is right for you. Also realize you can date AND grieve at the time time.
Yay - hell, no pressure, just have fun checking them out. Move forward at your own pace, whatever you're comfortable. And who knows, you might have a little fun checking out the men :)
I got a match today on eharmony that actually had in his profile that he is very very busy so has no time for chit chat or hanging out..... dude, what do you think dating is?? sigh. LOL! Lots of blogging material if nothing else, TRUST ME. ;)
Enjoy! It does sound fun to have people interested and to have flirting outlets. I wasn't trying to sound down on the idea when you first mentioned it, I do want you to have fun and to be adored.
I've known some wonderful couples who met through the internet.
Another reader here who met her husband online - and I was SOOO resistant to the whole concept. Wine helps, as does a sense of humor. I understand that you have both, so have fun!
I met my hubs on match.com. We have been married more than five years and our second baby is on the way.
Good for you. There's nothing wrong with wanting to be loved and have someone. Nothing will happen that you don't want. You don't have to respond, meet or date anyone you don't want to.
Hope you get what you want and need. Good luck with it!
I found the initial foray into eHarmony quite fun and entertaining when I first joined it (paying and all) July a year ago, which was just over 2 years out. It was certainly a great distraction. Ultimately I ended up detesting online dating, but it may have had more to do with where my head and the grief were at than anything else.
Good for you for signing up! Even if you don't do anything with it or if it's a complete, maddening bust, at least it's getting your head thinking in that direction again. I found it great practice at being "normal" and being reminded I could still converse with a member of the opposite sex when I start socializing in mixed company again (not on dates), instead of just my female friends or just my male friends separately. Got my head thinking in that direction toward dating, at least.
I've been tossing around the idea of going back and giving eHarmony another whirl. Two people from my support group recently got engaged (one of them met their fiance on eHarmony) and another one is dating a man she really likes and whom she met on eHarmony. I guess I must be getting lonely (liked your post where you talked about loneliness and the Peace Corp, btw), and I certainly don't meet anyone in my normal day-to-day life of being a stay-at-home mom who stays AT home 98% of the time. I just hate that I'm even having to do all this again...sigh.
I'll be keeping my fingers crossed that you find a few good guys, even if it's just for email contact. Good luck!
I've been reading your blog for a while, but never commented until now! I tried an online dating service after moving to a new city where I knew no one. My friends thought I was crazy, but my thinking was there had to be other normal people like me doing it. I went out with several normal, nice guys where we just had no chemistry. I also ran into some really crazy people and got myself into some bad situations! So good luck and be careful!
Snick: There is no harm in looking for happiness, especially when you knew so well what happiness was/is. It won't ever be the same, but different can be great too. Enjoy the exploration.
I'm behind reading by a few weeks - all I can say is - Good for you! I imagine it was like jumping off the deep end... although - I am sure you can swim...and will do just fine!
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Good for you! :)
well good luck snick. i know it must be tough to jump back in.
At the very least, you can get a good giggle from it. :) Especially if there's wine involved.
Just remember that you don't have to respond right away. You can ponder, think about it and decide when it is right for you. A few years ago I used an online dating service (met my future husband) and I actually made quite a few friends too. Good luck and have fun with it!
yay!
how exciting!!
the blogging possibilities will be frikkin awesome alone ;)
Kick back, relax and have fun... You can make a girls night out of it and have a couple of girlfriends look them over with you, you know get the seal of approval from the gang. Have a great weekend!
Good for you. And just remember, the appropriate amount of time to grieve a loved one is however long you feel is right for you. Also realize you can date AND grieve at the time time.
It's okay.
i am delurking to say: YOU ARE AWESOME. that is all.
I hope, if nothing else, it's amusing. :-)
Yeah for you!!!!!! Good Luck and just have fun with it ! I can't wait to read about it.
Yay - hell, no pressure, just have fun checking them out. Move forward at your own pace, whatever you're comfortable. And who knows, you might have a little fun checking out the men :)
Good for you!
Fingers crossed for the right outcome at the right time for you!
I'm so excited and nervous for you. This will bring many interesting blog posts and girl chats :)
Can't wait!
Sounds like it could provide some entertainment if nothing else. Good luck!!!
Yeah! You know your gonna have to blog about it now?
hahahaaaa! go for it girl!
I got a match today on eharmony that actually had in his profile that he is very very busy so has no time for chit chat or hanging out..... dude, what do you think dating is?? sigh. LOL! Lots of blogging material if nothing else, TRUST ME. ;)
You go girl!
{from out of the shadows}....do whatever feels right....you TOTALLY ROCK snick.....
Gahhhhhhhhhhh!
I'm pseudo dancing around on pain killers for you!
Have fun and laugh a little!
Enjoy! It does sound fun to have people interested and to have flirting outlets. I wasn't trying to sound down on the idea when you first mentioned it, I do want you to have fun and to be adored.
I've known some wonderful couples who met through the internet.
Go for it, girl! :)
You're gonna have fun with it! Enjoy!
Another reader here who met her husband online - and I was SOOO resistant to the whole concept. Wine helps, as does a sense of humor. I understand that you have both, so have fun!
I met my hubs on match.com. We have been married more than five years and our second baby is on the way.
Good for you. There's nothing wrong with wanting to be loved and have someone. Nothing will happen that you don't want. You don't have to respond, meet or date anyone you don't want to.
Hope you get what you want and need. Good luck with it!
I found the initial foray into eHarmony quite fun and entertaining when I first joined it (paying and all) July a year ago, which was just over 2 years out. It was certainly a great distraction. Ultimately I ended up detesting online dating, but it may have had more to do with where my head and the grief were at than anything else.
Good for you for signing up! Even if you don't do anything with it or if it's a complete, maddening bust, at least it's getting your head thinking in that direction again. I found it great practice at being "normal" and being reminded I could still converse with a member of the opposite sex when I start socializing in mixed company again (not on dates), instead of just my female friends or just my male friends separately. Got my head thinking in that direction toward dating, at least.
I've been tossing around the idea of going back and giving eHarmony another whirl. Two people from my support group recently got engaged (one of them met their fiance on eHarmony) and another one is dating a man she really likes and whom she met on eHarmony. I guess I must be getting lonely (liked your post where you talked about loneliness and the Peace Corp, btw), and I certainly don't meet anyone in my normal day-to-day life of being a stay-at-home mom who stays AT home 98% of the time. I just hate that I'm even having to do all this again...sigh.
I'll be keeping my fingers crossed that you find a few good guys, even if it's just for email contact. Good luck!
~Candice
Hope you have fun with it! No matter what happens, it's sure to be an interesting experience!
"break a leg...."
karen
Go for it and have a great time while you are doing it!
This made me smile. Good luck and we're all rooting for you!
Have fun!!!!
Snick! Snick! Snick!
(in good ol' stadium-chant style)
Good Luck and have lots of fun with it!
I like the idea of making it a girlfriend night where they help you "cull the herd"
Ohhhh, have fun. Good decision.
Woo hoo!! Can't wait to hear some stories :)
I've been reading your blog for a while, but never commented until now! I tried an online dating service after moving to a new city where I knew no one. My friends thought I was crazy, but my thinking was there had to be other normal people like me doing it. I went out with several normal, nice guys where we just had no chemistry. I also ran into some really crazy people and got myself into some bad situations! So good luck and be careful!
Well really, what else is there to do now that the Olympics are over?!
Good for you - have some fun with it.
Snick: There is no harm in looking for happiness, especially when you knew so well what happiness was/is. It won't ever be the same, but different can be great too. Enjoy the exploration.
Chicken
I'm behind reading by a few weeks - all I can say is - Good for you! I imagine it was like jumping off the deep end... although - I am sure you can swim...and will do just fine!
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