07 May 2008

Welcome, new readers!

A big hello to any readers who have found their way over here from the cnn.com story "Your blog can be group therapy" that went up today in the Living section. I hope you find something here that is meaningful or helpful, and that you decide to stay a while. I welcome comments and e-mail (see address in sidebar).

The article features my real name, so the cat's out of the bag on that. I'd been mulling over revealing my identity, and when I got the call about the interview for the article, that made the decision for me. Feel free to look me up on Facebook and invite me to play Scrabulous. My Facebook profile pic shows me in a black and white striped tank top with Maddie and Riley on either side of me—the same picture that accompanies the CNN article.

Thanks for stopping by—hope you stick around.

121 comments:

Lori said...

i'm just reading your blog, probably as you post. what i've read is bittersweet, funny and honest. i've added you to my bookmarks.

mumof4 said...

Hey! I just read that CNN article and when it described the lady whose husband died of cancer I thought 'wow, just like Snickollet' and then it went on to say it WAS Snickollet! Honoured to have read you for so long. And I certainly find it theraputic!

Alaina said...

Hiya! Came from CNN... nice blog.

Julie said...

Can't believe you made the leap, but wow--you're famous now, Snick! :^) Definitely might hit you up on the Facebook.

Jenn said...

How neat! I was suprised to see that this morning when I read my usual Yahoo! news. :) You are in the the front page of the USA Today Section.

django's mommy said...

whoohoo!! You're famous! And shoot, I was staying w/friends in your town in January.

Christina said...

I found you via CNN. I look forward to reading more about the twins and life in general

Sarah said...

I also found you via cnn.com. I am encouraged by your posts! Keep them coming!

Elle said...

Dear CNN readers ... as a long-time Snickollet fan, I can tell you that you are really going to like her blog!

Yay, Snick!

BabyBirdsBabyBlog said...

I've been lurking here for more than a year. Never commented but it's neat that you got to be featured in the article. I think writing is very theraputic.

I journal some here but more on a locked site. I know it's helped me get through some crazy times.

Sarah said...

Crazy! I read the first paragraph of that article, but didn't read the whole thing. Welcome to your 15 minutes of fame!

Snickollet said...

Sarah--

I hope the "fame" lasts for more than 15 minutes :). We shall see . . . a girl can dream, right?

-snick

Dodong said...

My father also was died with cancer when I was still 7 years old, and we are 9 in the family, its very hard to live if you think you are in deep sorrows.

But thats life, as long as you can breath or living in this planet you have always a problem, so live as best as you can, and be happy as you can because life is so short.

Yankee, Transferred said...

Well, you'll have even bigger traffic now, won't you. Don't forget about the little people. HA!
Hope you're well-it's been a while.
Cheers-
YT

Tita said...

Of course, as many other readers, I got to your blog through cnn.com.

It will be my pleasure to read you and add this blog to my favorite list.

Keep it up! ;)

You can always visit me at my blog, sometimes I blog in English :)

Klynn said...

Another positive you can take from all the crap that life has been throwing at you. Don't let the fame get to you. And don't let an increase in readership make you feel obligated to post any more or more often than you feel like. You've already got so much going on, we don't want to see you get burnt out. Much love from your devoted readers.

Tita said...

Agreed with Klynn, a blog should be a place to post your thoughts and feelings, it has to be something you enojoy and helps you go through life, not a responsability or something that you HAVE to do just because other people are expecting that from you.

That's what it happened to a friend of mine, he got overwhelmed and he stopped blogging for a while...

Anyway! ttyl

Keen said...

Yay! This is AWESOME. But then, I saw this coming the first time I ever read your blog. I admire and respect you for putting so much out there to share with others.

Congrats!

Gianna said...

Aha! My suspicion is confirmed; you ARE from Arlington; I found your blog via Dorcasina, via Professing Mama...and promptly read the entire archive (my cousin passed away from pancreatic cancer last fall, another cousin has it also, and my uncle and a good friend's mom just passed away after long cancer battles in the last 2 weeks).

I remember reading one post of yours where you mention your favorite BBQ place, and talk about how they have 2 locations...and I thought, I bet she's talking about Blue Ribbon. :-) I live near the Arlington Blue Ribbon and work near the Newton one...

Rob, Tina and the boys said...

Your blog was referred to me by my cousin who saw the article and left me a comment on mine. I was also just interviewed about my blog (although it was local CBC here in NWT) but it's nice to have new readers. I'll be back and if you want to see what the Northwest Territories of Canada looks like, jump on over!

Prophecy Girl said...

Hi, I didn't find you through the article, but I thought this was a great way to introduce myself as I've been reading your blog for a few months now. I surfed over from mamanabi's blog. I'm a mom of 1 (15 mo boy) and I have the same birthday as your twins. :) (Only I'm a LOT older than they are :P)

I have a blog too. You can check my son's blog via my user name, but my main blog is at http://ducks.livejournal.com. Only my blog is friends only, so you'll have to join LJ to read it.

That's it for my long intro. I've enjoyed your blog very much, even though I don't watch American Idol. You are truly a superhero, raising twins on your own. (I can barely raise one toddler with my husband.)

carah said...

I saw that article... Thats how I found your blog!

I started my blog after my boyfriend died from Hogkin's lymphoma... My blog became my favorite form of therapy... I needed to express what I was going through. It's turned into just sort of a daily ranting from me, but I'm glad I found your blog.

Always good to know I'm not alone in dealing with grief.

Anonymous said...

Awww shoot I tried to add you on facebook but there are a few with your name and I am not sure which one was you.
I am a big scrabulous player but I stink at it, I was ready for a new challenge:)
I am ca Moore on facebook from NJ:)

Jamie D said...

I, too, heard about you on CNN and I have spent the entire morning reading your blog - (when are about 100 things I should be doing instead) Thank you for sharing your stories, life, sadness, and silliness in such an open and honest way.

Anonymous said...

I also read your story on CNN. I admire your courage and honesty. Do you realise how many people's lives you've touched and helped. I look forward to playing scrabble on facebook, if I can find you !!!

kindsfather said...

I read the article - and the whole 90-day-jane thing blows my mind. It is fantastic that you were featured, and now you are going to touch even more lives... go you!

Angela said...

I agree with your other faithful readers, that it's wonderful that you will now be able to touch even more lives with your words and stories. That's great that you were profiled in CNN, can I have your autograph ;-)

What A Card said...

So excited for you...how neat! They couldn't have featured a sweeter person. I hope your blog reaches and helps even more people.

Tell the truth...how does your traffic boost from this compare to the traffic boost from the article I wrote for the twin newsletter? ;)

Anne said...

I saw the article and didn't realize it was you at first either. Great article! I'd love to play you in Scrabulous but there are a few ladies with your name on the big world of Facebook. Loved the pics of the twins you linked to the other day. WAY too adorable!

Surfsnowgirl said...

I read the article on CNN about blogging being an alternative to therapy and that caught my attention. I'm a pretty tech savvy person but blogging is something I'd not done yet. Your blog was the first I came onto and it caught my attention so I read some more. My boyfriend is fortunately a cancer survivor (kidney cancer 2 years ago) but your blog postings struck a chord with me because we had some really scary times when we didn't know what the prognosis was going to be. I'd put on my strong face and didn't let on how scared I really was. Fortunately my man is cancer free 2 years later. My heart goes out to you and your situation. My good friend Diana and her husband moved to Texas so he can retire. This was 2 years ago. Last November her husband died very suddently. To say the least, Dianna has still not recovered. All of these things make me realize how fragile life is and how we should appreciate every bit of it. I will book mark your blog so I can visit it from time to time. Keep up the good work, you can do it.

Jen said...

Hey gorgeous, congrats on the fame. Hope you'll still take my calls. We must set up a playdate soon!!! BTW, I made a point of looking for dulce de leche for you at Market Basket today (and they have it!), so let me know if you need me to pick some up for you.

Shit. I just realized I forgot to get some for myself. What was I THINKING???

Love,
Woburn Jen

Kier said...

I'm not a new reader (have been lurking for quite some time and I think I may have commented before) but I wanted to say hello!

Monique72 said...

Ejoyed reading your blog. I also found your blog through CNN. I've added you to my bookmark list and look forward to reading more of your stuff.

Sandi said...

I saw the article. Congratulations!

suz said...

Not a new reader but the cnn mention is quite cool. Who knows, maybe some new exciting opportunities might arise out of it!

Moms Lifesavers said...

I'm thankful to CNN for introducing you to us. I've been reading you blog for an hour so far and I'm deeply moved. You have a new fan. You're amazing!!!!

Mrs.Johnson0317 said...

Yep... found you through CNN. I lost my dad to cancer when I was in HS. I wish my mom had an outlet like this when he was sick and after he died. I think it would have helped her to know of how wonderful and strong we can be as humans, not only for sharing but to contributing to each others lives. Thank you.

Narayanan Kutti said...

Saw you in CNN, Good to hear people uses internet, blogging for good purposes.Read couple of your posts after I landed here, very encouraging. My prayers and wishes.

Jen said...

Hi.. I found you on CNN and think you're wicked cool. No wait.. I already knew you "before your blog got syndicated".. i wonder if you're take on idol will affect the final two shows give your expanding reader base?

seriously.. i'm glad that you're able to touch other people's lives. i'm sure it's sureal from where you're sitting, but as a snickollet blog-o-holic, i can say that you often remind me where the ground is and where the sky is and how to stand up and take a step.

as a side note.. my hit count has jumped again as people check your blog through CNN.. *laff* love it!

Beth from the Funny Farm said...

I found you though the news article. I have read through many of your blog posts.

Here is a big hug for you and your children today. Thanks for sharing your experiences.

Jen said...

Longtime lurker here...

...I knew I recognized those babies in the picture, and then when I read further, I realized it was you.

Keep up the good work.

winecat said...

Way to go Snick!

A book editor, I'm drooling with envy.

monica said...

Hi there,
I read often and comment now and then. I really have no idea how I found your blog, but I connect with the single mom part of your life because I am a single mom by choice with two boys. I knew you were in the boston suburbs, but did not know where. A while back I was singing the praises of Crescent Ridge in a comment, and you mentioned that you already had discovered them. Then just the other day you noted that you were going to cream for the ice cream delivered on Wed. Well, Wed is my delivery day too, so I was thinking to myself "hey, I wonder if she lives in Arlington?" Just a few days later, and I am wondering no more.
Love this town...

Daniel J. Watkins said...

Great blog -- thank you for sharing your parts of your life with us.
God bless,
Dan Watkins

franksabunch said...

After my dad died of pancreatic cancer a few years ago I started a blog partly to write about it and it helped me tremendously. Sorry about your husband, God bless you and your children.

Dr. Wifey said...

another recruit from CNN :) love the blog, and may even challenge you to some scrabulous on facebook

Krista said...

Wow. I'm on the CNN bandwagon, and you're already on my blogroll.

Israel said...

your strength and vulnerabilities shine through in your writing. I've added you to my daily rss reading list, looking forward to learning from your insights.

Stef said...

Im going to add you to my bookmarks.. once I get home.. I am at work and cannot do it here. I hope to get some of your strength, as I am going through a tough time lately, and feel very hopeless myself. Please keep on writing, !!!

bg's Little Sis said...

SNICK IS A ROCK STAR NOW...We're not worthy girl!

congrats and you look great in the pic as do the babies always too!

Lots of love,
Lil'sis

Betty M said...

Delurking - I have been reading over a year - your situation is very much the same as my sister's and it has helped me get closer to how she feels as a young widow with young children.

Teresa/VA said...

I came by way of the CNN article. You are one very brave woman. I'm glad you have your blog to keep up with and that it seems to help you. Keep it up - it is a form of therapy - and may not only help yourself but others in the long run that happen to stop by for a visit! Sorry for YOUR tragic loss and the twins not growing up with their great dad (I'm sure he would have been). I bookmarked your site & plan to check back again to see what's going on in your world. My kids are 18 months apart and now grown. When they were young I experienced the same "toy" issue. It wasn't too bad when we moved to a larger house and all the toys stayed in the "toy room" - I could just close the door and imagine the room was picked up all the time! NOT! Then the only other issue was the older one could understand simple board game rules but while he and I would be playing Candyland the younder one would come through and mess the board up! Whew!

poop0521 said...

I just read the CNN article about you. I thought I should read your blog. Recently I just gave brith to a baby boy name Matthew. He was born on April 10th. And my husband left few weeks ago. He sent me an email at work, telling me he want to live his own life. And the life without me and the baby. I didn't know how to react to my sitution at that time. by reading your blog it really helped. I want to say Thank You!

Crystal said...

Here's another one from CNN! LOL! Good for you for staying so strong. I have to admit to doing a similar thing with my blog. I'm a divorced mom of 2 and started mine so if anything should ever happen to me, my kids would have my thoughts, memories, experiences and pictures. And I totally agree that it is a form of therapy. I love it! I'll be sure to come back and visit!

tree town gal said...

HEY, THAT'S OUR SNICK! Not to sound too possessive but this is just a tad exciting for the regulars, too. Good for you, Snick. Hope many wonderful things come from sharing your story with a broader audience. Feeling so very proud. :}

therapydoc said...

Scrabbulous!

As if blogging doesn't eat up enough time. Glad to meet you. I never in a million years would have thought I'd make friends through CNN.

It was fun, wasn't it?

Becky said...

Hey, congrats on the CNN article! I found out about it (and your blog) through facebook. I haven't watched last night's Idol yet since I was at the Celtics game, but I look forward to watching it on DVR tomorrow.

Rachelle said...

What a great way to share with friends, family, and make new friends.

I also keep a blog for my family, and a second blog about parenting tips, ideas, and activities for families in the San Francisco Bay Area.

Yes, I did find you from the CNN article, and hopefully it brings you some new connections!

Here's to you...you rockstar mom you!

Anonymous said...

My girlfriend sent me the CNN article suggesting that I also blog to help deal with the grief. I lost my husband to colon cancer a year plus ago. My son was diagnosed with esophageal cancer 3 months after (1 year ago). He is the father of 3 small children. We are griefing the loss of my husband and the illness that my son has. It appears that your blog has not only helped you, but also others. Keep it up. Helping others can help you deal with your loss.

Grace from Texas said...

I too saw CNN article. I think if this is what helps heal your pain, so be it. Its not good to keep it all in. I'm praying for you and your babies. May you find peace in your life. God Bless.

www.griffensgift.com said...

My name is Kimberly Parrish. I saw the CNN Article. I empathize and sympathize with you. Losing someone you love is horrific.

Last May, my little brother Griffen
Lollis was killed in an underage drinking incident. He had just turned 20 years old.

He went to a party with his "friends", drank until he passed out and woke up with obscenities written in permanent marker all over him. One indicated a sexual assault. Of course he was angry.

His "friends" kicked him out, his "best friend" drove him almost home because he was still too drunk to drive. He left him in the vehicle with the keys. Griffen wound up getting behind the wheel and crashing the vehicle and losing his life.

I started an organization called Griffen's Gift to try to reach out to others and prevent such a tragedy.

In February on his 21st birthday, I started a blog. It really is therapy. It has my little brother's story and even some photos of what was written on him. If you are interested check out the site, www.griffensgift.com

I only read the CNN article so far but completely understand the hurt you feel. I will be sitting down and reading all of your postings.

Blogging is new to me but I am finding many others are experiencing some of the same things I am.

I hope you will continue to share your experiences with others. My prayers are with you and your two beautiful children.

Kimberly

Heather said...

Just like so many I came here after reading the CNN article. Your blog is honest, funny, sad, real.

I look forward to reading more as the days go by.

Keith said...

I don't know if I'll find my way back, but it was the mention of twins that got me to click here. I have three-year-old fraternal twin boys, and I run a website for fathers of twins.

Anyone able to raise children with a large-to-small-person ratio of 1:2 has caffeine for blood. Good wishes and admiration from here.

Anonymous said...

This is a great blog. I too have boy/girl twins born on June 22, 1990. They will be graduating next month. It goes by way too fast seems like yesterday I was walking out of the hospital with them. Enjoy this time because it really is true the bigger they get the bigger the problems! Only kidding, my kids are great, I just can't get them to hang out with me anymore!

Kellys said...

I lost my husband to kidney cancer in 1999. Still hurts. My sons were in college at the time but I still feel their pain of not having their father during this time of adulthood....my youngest is expecting his first child, our first grandchild, in July....so excited but so bittersweet. Hang in there. pk

HTmom said...

found you via cnn and have really enjoyed reading your blog--we share an unhealthy obsession with AI! i recently lost a dear friend to cancer and reading your blog has helped me with my own grief. now off to figure out how to find you on facebook....

Anonymous said...

I saw the article on CNN and started reading from April 2007. I got to the post about the remains and knew I had to tell you what I decided to do with me after the fact. I want to be cremated and then my kids 6 of them will pass me around year to year when they get together. I hope I will get to travel also! Hope your day is sweet!

Bob said...

I recently lost my soulmate to breast cancer. She was only 37 years young and had accomplished so much in her life.
Saw the article on CNN and just wanted to say thanks for your blog. It made me smile.

eyewitness muse said...

Hey Snickollet, I was drawn to the CNN article by the title. We share a very sad thing in common...

My long time girlfriend and even longer best friend died suddenly and totally unexpectedly due to an undiagnosed heart problem a little over a month ago.

I was, needless to say, devastated. I couldn't begin to express myself to friends and family because, quite honestly, I was so emotional that I felt bad for the people trying to help.

I turned to blogs I frequent to talk about it and people have simply been incredible. Perfect strangers dropping me personal emails just to see how I'm doing--others sharing the grief that has visited their lives--people of faith telling me that they'd prayed for us in churches all over the U.S.

It's been an enormous help. I'm glad to read that blogging has similarly helped in your time of loss.

I look forward to reading your blog and adding it to my list. Take care Snickollet.

BTW, if you'd like to read my blog's tribute to my girl, it's here: www.eyewitnessmuse.com

Just click on "commentary."

Kiki said...

Like a lot of others, I found you through CNN. Your story was sweet and made me cry, but only because I recently lost a family member, too. I blog, too, and it has always been uber therapeutic for me, too. Definately adding you to my list!! Thanks for telling your story!

Jen said...

/cnn

You didn't need to worry about your real life name bag, it was printed on the twins' first ultrasound pictures in an image way back when that I just ran across. Beautiful children, by the way.

Nice blog. You're far better about blogging than I am, I feel like I play at it - I'll go on a writing frenzy and then all of a sudden not post for over a month or more. I bookmarked you. :)

so-yun said...

this is so cool! congrats to you! =)

Cathy said...

I have been reading your blog for quite a while. Would love to play Scrabulous if you are up for a challenge. Still trying to find you on Facebook.

Boho Girl said...

you are an inspiration.

Michele (Moosh) said...

This is so cool. Just think of all the people you are helping!!!!

Like I said on Facebook....WAY TO GO, girl!! Don't forget us little people...LOL

Sylvie said...

You're famous! Glad that I've been reading you for so long. That is such a good picture of you and the kids.

jill said...

Now that your name is more public, I have to know... how did you get the name "Snickollet" for your blog? I just figured that your real name must be Nicole or Nicolette or something... Please tell us!

Jamie said...

I've been around forever... but I just wanted to say congratulations on the article!! It is so true -- blogging is therapy!

I love the picture of you with Riley and Maddie. :)

Legally Brunette said...

I've found my way here from the CNN article, and I am just blown away by your story and your blog. Am at work, but I have read through April 2006 thus far (when no one is around to see I am not actually working!).

Your writing is engrossing and I just can't seem to stop reading, probably because I can identify on so many levels; my husband and I are in the third year of living with and learning to deal with a permanent, grave, life-altering but non-fatal disease that I was diagnosed with 11 months after we were married.

I wouldn't be surprised if you are on your way to writing a book, if that is something you are interested in doing! Best of luck.

Anonymous said...

I wish you no harm and hope for the best, but being a mother myself, why would you purposely have children when you know one of the parents had such a serious disease?, almost 100% fatal. It most certainly was no shock your husband would die. Seems not fair to your children....

seattlegal said...

I've been reading for a while now - I honestly don't remember how I found your blog before. I just can't imagine how hard it must have been and must continue to be to raise twins on your own. I have 11 month old (almost) twins and it can be a huge challenge.

I just wanted to say that blogs are definitely a great way to gain support and give support. I'm so thankful I live in a time that blogs exist!

Take care!

www.griffensgift.com said...

In response to the anonymous commenter who criticized Stacey's decision to have children. How dare you? How cold are you? It is so easy to judge until you have been there.

Obviously, you have no clue of what it is like to lose someone. The last thing a grieving person needs is some arrogant opinion of someone who has no clue.

I lost my own brother last May and and blog myself. I get critical comments sometimes and always think, how would you feel if you were in my shoes?

Kimberly

Jen said...

Somehow I missed the photo accompanying the CNN article when I first read it and commented here, and I feel compelled to tell the blogosphere that both Snick and the kids, though they look perfectly lovely in this photo, are even better-looking than this. I know Snick is too humble to point this out herself, so somebody has to. :-)

As for whether it was unfair to have kids knowing they might lose their dad so young--well, life isn't fair. This blog is proof of that. You just got to do the best you can, regardless.

Woburn Jen, GOT to get a better name

Karyn said...

Wow, Snick! I loved the article; always love reading your blog. Sorry I haven't posted in awhile. I am still here! You are such an amazing writer. I have the feeling this is only the beginning for you. Lots of love.

Fran said...

Hi! I emailed you earlier today and just wanted to comment on your blog. I do check in on your blog everyday and have done so since before John died.

Fran

Jennifer said...

Another CNN visitor....so moved, shocked, and saddened by all you've lost; and of course inspired by your resiliance, humor and tenacity. Thank you for writing.

Caryn said...

John was a good friend of mine in high school, but an even dearer friend to my sister Dawn. I was just reading the article on CNN and I said, Oh my gosh, It's John's family. Sure enough, it's you. I think about your family and find it amazing that you have the strength to be a mom and continue on. You are so strong and a great example for Riley and Maddie. John sure is reflected in that little girl! Please know there are a lot of people out there keeping you in their prayers--myself included. Caryn Klebba

Gina Alfani said...

I found you on CNN! I'm also a widow and I moved my journaling to blogs a couple of years ago. It was a surprise when I started receiving email from others going through the same experiences thanking me for my writing so honestly about life. Blogging and the friends I have made online as a result have saved my sanity.

I look forward to reading about your experiences and getting to know you :)

Anonymous said...

I just want to tell you how inspiring your posts are. I discovered your blog through CNN, and I read almost the entire thing in one sitting. Your children are incredibly blessed to have you as a mom and GH as their father. I know that you probably wouldn't write your life this way, but like you said, sometimes we don't have a choice, and you're doing an amazing job.

And whoever asked why she had children is an ignorant and heartless person...number one, not your business, and two, sometimes it's better to keep your mouth shut. Maddie and Riley are here, clearly very loved and well cared for, and I doubt her grief would be any less without them here. In fact, I think it's beautiful that John can live on through his children.

Anonymous said...

I just want to tell you how inspiring your posts are. I discovered your blog through CNN, and I read almost the entire thing in one sitting. Your children are incredibly blessed to have you as a mom and GH as their father. I know that you probably wouldn't write your life this way, but like you said, sometimes we don't have a choice, and you're doing an amazing job.

And whoever asked why she had children is an ignorant and heartless person...number one, not your business, and two, sometimes it's better to keep your mouth shut. Maddie and Riley are here, clearly very loved and well cared for, and I doubt her grief would be any less without them here. In fact, I think it's beautiful that John can live on through his children.

Mark Borok said...

I'm one of those people who found you through CNN. Ironically, I live next door to you in Belmont and I lost my wife to breast cancer in December, two days before Christmas. She was 39. We had no children, though, which I consider a mercy.

Stay strong.

-- Mark

BethGo said...

Wow. I think you are so brave and strong for putting yourself out there like this.
I've been reading you for almost two years now and sister, I have cried with you. I don't even know John and I miss him.
One of the most poignant post for me was when you wrote about how that stupid pizza guy gave John a hard time for not shoveling snow. I'm still mad at that pizza guy today.
I love your blog Snick and I am so glad you have found comfort in it.

Mel said...

Hi, long time reader, first time commenter... I've wanted to comment in the past but never really had the nerve. But look at your nerve, coming out of the blogging closet on cnn.com of all places! So I figured I should be brave too.

I cried and cried when John died. And I think about you & the twins sometimes during my day and say a little prayer that today is a good day. You're an amazing woman - I don't think I'd be functional, at all, in your situation.

Melissa in TN said...

Wow. That's all I can say about you "coming out" on CNN. I thought those babes looked familiar and then I realized it was you.

I'm another one of your long-time readers who is so pleased to be able to read your blog. Thanks so much.

Nancy said...

Hi There - I wandered over via CNN and have been reading some of your past postings. You're doing a great job. I really enjoy your writing and as a divorced mother of two, I know how challenging it is to keep your head above water. Keep it up! I've bookmarked you so I'll check in now and then.

jtj3 said...

Like many others, I found your blog from the CNN.com story. First, let me say I'm sorry for your loss. While I haven't experienced anything near whar you have, I definitely identify with you on the "blogging is therapy" angle. I'll be back to visit now and again...

Giovanna said...

Snick....I so expect autographs on Wednesday....Something tells me you're gonna be a very busy blogger.
Congrats!
And I knew you when....ok we met just a few years ago...but still!

Rachel said...

Heh. I read the caption under the photo before taking on the article and was all "Twins named Riley and Madeleine? Wait a minute..."

Congratulations. :) It's nice to finally link a face to the name.

lucy said...

You're kids are beautiful!

10 lbs of awesome in a 5 lb bag said...

To think that I read your blog when...looking forward to the book and reality show deals. :)

Nathan and Christi said...

I just spent 2 hours reading your entire blog....Thanks for being so candid..I had tears rolling down my face. You are quite a woman..an inspiration even. Your children are such a wonderful legacy to your dear Goose. They're gorgeous! Keep bloggin! I'll keep reading!

Lisa said...

Hey, congrats on the CNN mention. You really do have a great blog and it is nice for you to get some recognition for it.

For what its worth, I've known you're real name for a while now (maybe it was from an email?). But anyway, I blog with my real name after having an anonymous blog and I've really found it to be less awkward and not that big of deal. There have been no serious ramifications because of it. So, I wouldn't worry too much about it.

micah said...

i also saw you on cnn... great blog. i love that you have not defined yourself by your roles whether it is wife, mother, widow, editor... you have painted a whole person portrait and i admire that. so many times we think of ourselves as only one aspect of our lives, neglecting to tell the story of the rest...

Ken Hanscom said...

Great blog, found it on CNN -- keep it up!

Anonymous said...

WOW...You just picked up a TON of readers!

- Andrea

Superha said...

great pic of you and the twins. how cute are they?

BeeJoo71 said...

Saw your CNN link to here and haven't had the chance to fully read everything, but at least I know I am not alone in my thought process at times in dealing with a loved ones battle with Cancer.

My Mom is in the ending stages of battling this f**king disease (sorry for the cuss word - but I hate it!) - she's been battling this for 10 years and now she's at the point where they cannot do anymore. So, home she is now - Hospice comes in to see her 2x a week - she's doing fine now, but little by little things are starting to change.

I am sorry for your loss and I give you lots of praise on how you chose to seek "help" (in a way) by creating this blog. It really does help (I find) to reach out to others whom do not know you personally to offer up different points of view in all of this or have gone through the experience such as you have.

Regards,

Luxury said...

I read about you in the CNN article and your story really touched me. I have struggled with depression for many years, and lately a series of events have affected me greatly. I hope for the best for you and can only say that life is a series of waves. Sometimes you are on the top, sometimes it hits you hard and knocks you down. When everything around you is falling apart, know that there will be a time in the future when things will be better, when things will make sense. You have too many things to live for to let go.

Bob said...

Because you are an Arlington, Mass., resident, I will add a link to the CNN story as well as to the blogroll at www.yourarlington.com. Beyond the universal interest in your thoughts, I would think your neighbors want to know, too.

Bob Sprague
publisher
yourarlington.com

Evie the evil Evelyn said...

Thank you for agreeing to the article :-)

HoosierHoops said...

Hey..Just dropped in after reading the CNN article..I'll bookmark you and come back soon.

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Caustic Cupcake said...

From 12 comments to 112 comments... you go, girl! :)

Also, did I mention how beautiful you are in the CNN picture? And how utterly squeezable Maddie and Riley are?

Christine said...

Congrats on being famous! And nice pic. :)

Sunbee said...

Great blog you have here... very down to earth. Please keep going... I now will make it every effort to follow along.

Holly said...

I, too, found you on CNN. And I don't normally even frequent CNN. How's that?

I love your blog and the backreading I've done. I admire your honesty in sharing all you've been through.

ndjole said...

wow...to think that we knew you before all this fame... What would your eleves say? I'll not go public with our current Scrabulous score so that your popularity is not harmed. :)

Well done, Snick. You're awesome.

SG

Kay Martin said...

Kay said
Less than one month ago my husband died. Today the grief has hit with a fierceness. I caught myself writing to a friend of decades past way too long a post. I began writing to myself all the stuff bubbling up. I found your post and reading your posts in a few minutes has helped me from thinking I'm losing all my marbles.

Kay Martin said...

I found your blog searching for grief/widow blogs. My husband died less than a month ago from lung cancer. Writing back to an old friend from college I realized I was going on and on. If he has a bit of sense he'll delete all that verbage and realize I'm having a hard time and using him to process my stuff. I read through many of your posts. That is helping. I am writing just to be writing and I sense that finally some tears are boiling out of my eyes...no permanent streaks and ruts I hope. Keep this up...you're real and it is truly helping me.

Holly said...

Stacy,

After reading the CNN article, I read your entire blog. My best friend is battling brain cancer, and your story is very comforting, in a bittersweet way. Thank you, thank you, thank you, for your honesty. Best of luck.

-Holly

Caminante said...

Congrats. I pop in a lot but don't write much. May you be inundated with kind wishes.