I need to trust my instincts about my kids even if what I need to do with and for them is not what outside forces are telling me is right.
I need to remember that I will not spoil the twins (or instill bad habits) by giving them what they need.
Before I leave work every day, I am to envision shedding my shell of perfectionism, unzipping that casing and leaving it in my office. I am allowed to put it back on when I get to work in the morning. But at home, I am to focus on creating a space where the kids and I can just be and can get what we need from each other without worrying about doing it right or perfectly or the way we are supposed to do it.
This is hard work.