Yes, more on our sleepless nights. Boring! But I need to vent about it.
Last night was as awful as two nights ago. Ri-Man was up constantly, Maddie was up constantly. I'm starting to think Maddie might be sick, but not sure. I spent part of the night with Ri-Man on the couch, some of the night in bed, all of the night frustrated.
Clearly, something has to give.
Here's my concern about CIO: the twins still eat once in the night. Contrary to what I read in sleep and other parenting books, I think they need this feeding. When I'm up and down with them at night, it's clear when they just need/want soothing and when they want to eat because when it's feeding time, they suck on my face! When they just want some comfort, they don't do that. And they eat heartily in the night.
CIO is all about not sending mixed messages. You make the rule that crying will not be rewarded with rocking, holding, eating, etc. But if the babies need to eat in the night and they signal this initially with a cry, how do I provide their feeding while not sending them the message that most times crying won't get me to come, but sometimes it will?
I know that developmentally a healthy six-month-old doesn't NEED a nighttime feeding blah blah blah. But I'm here to tell you that these kids are HUNGRY, and depriving them of food doesn't seem right.
Of course, neither does depriving myself of my sanity.
Also: the twins go to bed just fine. Granted, they nurse or bottle feed to sleep, but they go right down and that initial stretch of sleep is usually their best one. It's not going to bed that's our problem, it's nighttime wakings, but we put the kids to bed sound asleep, so we're kind of cheating. If we decide to do CIO, do we need to change our nighttime routine so that we put them to bed drowsy, let them CIO to sleep (with varying amounts of intervention--haven't decided whcih method we would use), and then hope that by doing CIO to sleep initially, they sleep through and eliminate the need to figure out nighttime feeding?
My head is going to explode. Honestly, I'm about ready to put them to bed tonight, shut the door, get my earplugs, and go back at 7:00 a.m.