05 October 2008

More Indelicacy: Help Needed

I have not posted anything of substance in days, and I'm afraid this post is not going to improve matters. But I need help!

For reasons that I will not get into now, the Mirena is not going to be my friend after all. Instead, it's NuvaRing all the way for me.

Maybe.

You see, I put it in yesterday. Or I tried. It's in . . . but it certainly doesn't seem like it's in far enough, because I can feel it. And it keeps slipping out.

As has been mentioned many, many times before I use a DivaCup. I'm 100% comfortable touching my girl parts. Believe me, I have tried to shove this damn ring WAY THE HELL UP THERE. The ring just seems so . . . big, and the space I'm trying to hide it in seems so . . . small.

Did I not do enough Kegels? NuvaRing users, please advise.

31 comments:

Anonymous said...

Hmm, once it's in at all, I find it works its way up as far as it can go. Maybe try pushing it in with something else? :)

What A Card said...

Oh dear, I have no advice, I'm just thinking back to the IVF days of progesterone suppositories when they'd occasionally fall out...oh yuck. TMI. I know. Good luck with the birth control chronicles!

C. said...

My sister has the same problem. No solution yet.

Anonymous said...

I used the Nuva Ring for almost 3 years and I don't think it ever slipped out. What I would do to put it in is: Fold it in half so either sides of the ring are touching each other. While sitting, I would insert the ring and far as my finger could push it before letting go of both sides to open the ring back up again.

Also, a FYI one time during an intimate moment my husband was able to pull the ring back out again around himself. Not exactly the romantic surprise I was expecting...although we laugh about it now. Only happened once in 3 years and my husband never felt it inside that one time...

anon2 said...

hmmm, I can echo what anonymous 1 says. I've used the nuvaring for 3 years now, and don't have problems with it slipping out. I follow her insertion instructions exactly. I've found that if I don't fold it half firmly (just losely hold it) it doesn't go in as far. I haven't had it come out, but I can feel it if I do it wrong - like if you insert a tampon only part way.

Is it possible that you have a very short uh, canal (What would be the right word for this anyway?)?

Good luck. I've been so pleased with mine. It's worth fiddling for a bit before giving up.

Melissa said...

I have used the Nuvaring for a couple of years and what works for me is to take a tampon out of the applicator and replace it with the Nuvaring and insert it that way. Hope it helps!

Mykal said...

I used the nuva ring for two years and I had this problem ocassionaly. It would happen the first few days after intial insertion of a new ring. I would just keep trying to put it up as high as I could and eventually body heat softened up the rings and they conformed to a more oval shape where they would stay up higher where I couldn't feel them anymore. The most helpful thing I found when the ring felt like it was falling out, to get it up higher, was to have sex. I have a live in boyfriend to help out with out when needed though...

spaceranger said...

Hi there,

I've used NuvaRing for about a year or so (and loooooove it). Like a couple other commenters, I also have to fold it in half pretty firmly to get it in right. Once it it's in though, I rarely notice it. As a side note--I started using NuvaRing to mess with my hormones to prevent migraines. With my Doc's permission I leave one ring in for 4 weeks, and then immediately switch to a new ring--which means I no longer menstruate--I love not menstruating (and it has helped with the migraines too).

Good luck.

Anonymous said...

i have been using the nuvaring for 3 years and it has never slipped out. your muscles should hold it in place once it's in properly (like tampons, they don't slip out either). i fold it in half also, you can push it in further that way. i don't think you are 'too small' 'in there', your gyn would have noticed and suggested something else. you shouldn't feel it at all, if you can feel it, it's in wrong (again, like a tampon). also, ahem, having sex pushes it in further, but that may just be too much information. it takes a bit of practice... it's worth it. good luck.

clara-runner said...

When I used the ring three years ago, I had the feeling that the ring was slipping out. What I found made a difference was how it was inserted.

Now, they may have changed how they are made, but when I used them, I made sure the joining point was inserted first. I figured that although the ring was perfectly round when in the packaging, it wasn't perfectly round, maybe more oblong when inserted. So, I thought if the point was aiming out, it made sense that it would feel like it was slipping. After I flipped it around, my problem wass solved.

Hope this made sense/helps.

Elizabeth said...

I'm going to echo Melissa, I used an empty tampon applicator for insertion. Works very nice without having to contort oneself.

Anonymous said...

I only lost one nuvaring in the 8-12 months I used them. The unfortunate thing was that it slipped out in a very remote part of a remote country. I was staying in a shack w/no running water, or convenience store or pharmacy. And my husband and I spent the rest of the trip making up silly haikus and limericks about it.

Giovanna Diaries said...

I have no idea. I'm infertile Myrtle. But this post made me laugh just thinking about your male readers!

Brenna :) said...

sometimes I would feel the NuvaRing but usually I would take it out and try again. I have actually been on it for about 1 1/2 years. FYI* I am pregnant now because it fell out and I didn't know it. After sex, check and make sure it's still there. :)

Nancy Jones said...

Can I just say that I'm glad I had my tubes tied? All these rings sound really, really stressful. Good luck with it and Mr. Coffee!

Aimee said...

The receptionist at my OB's office said to use an empty tampon applicator.

Anonymous said...

TMI, TMI, TMI!

Anonymous said...

Okay, what I do is twist the ring into a figure 8 shape, and then put it in with 2 fingers (as far as that goes) and then use one to push it the rest of the way up. I really have to, uh,... squat... to get it all the way in.

Yikes.

Louise said...

Sorry, I use Implanon- the plastic hormone stick implanted under the skin in your upper arm. You honestly forget it is even there, and it stays in for three years (though you can have it removed any time). I have my period once every three months (though that varies for every woman on it) and most importantly, I get about 90% fewer migraines than I used to.
Not sure if it has been approved in the US yet (I got it in Australia 5 years ago), but if you can get it and you ever need to switch to something else, I recommend it (especially for readers in Australia- mine cost $25 for three years of birth control!)

I know that doesn't help you much with the ring, but I thought while we were sharing birth control information....

Cali said...

To Anon who said TMI: We should be happy to help one another, otherwise what is the point of our experience. Time for you to grow up!

For Snick: I used it for years before I decided to try to get pregnant. Follow the advice of squeezing it in two and then insert. Then push the lower end up inside. I would always feel that it was around the cervix by touching/pushing around the circle. Hope this helps and that you love it as much as I did.

gwen said...

Another satisfied NuvaRing customer here -- I have been using it for three years and also love it. Two tips:

1. I find that the first day or two, it tends to slip out until it sort of settles into place. (I didn't know that it actually softened, as another commenter said, but that totally makes sense.) I just push it back up every time I feel it coming down, and it resolves itself within a day or two -- so you might just need to stick with it.

2. If it really isn't going into the right place, I find that inserting it while standing, with one foot on the toilet or the sink, can make it go higher. Requires a little flexibility, but it works too.

electriclady said...

Hmm, I have to say that I was never able to keep a NuvaRing inside either. Maybe I was inserting it wrong, but it always slid down and sometimes would peek out--not comfortable. My husband could always feel it too, even when I pushed it as high up as I could. I gave it a month and then ran back to the pill...

Tiffany said...

I opted for the Mirena because I was afraid with the Nuvea Ring I would forget to change it once a week!

Shawna S said...

I used nuva ring for a year - and hated it. Ugghh. It was never totally comfortable. My husband swore he could always feel it. One of my friends used to take it out before sex with her hubby because it was so uncomfortable. She got pregnant!!! I hate nuva ring.

girlbattleaxe said...

I use Nuva Ring. I find it slips out often during sex. Girl, push it up there as far as you possibly can. That's my advice. You should not feel it at all. Kegels would probably help, but I suspect it is not up far enough. I love the Nuva Ring more than any other form of birth control I've tried.

Jen said...

well.. i'm gay and infertile.. so I'm really no help at all.. :) i AM an expert in girl parts, but alas.. i'm married.. and the wife wouldn't support me getting out the headlamp to take a look under the hood.

ok.. that sounded WAY worse than i intended it but now it's so damned funny that I can't NOT post it.. *chuckle*

Jessie said...

Ok, this isn't going to help at all if its actually slipping OUT, but keep in mind that it doesn't have to be in any particular position. As long as it is entirely inside your vagina, you are a-okay. I have a short vaginal canal, and my nuvaring was generally within a knuckle-length of the opening. As long as its not uncomfortable, and it is entirely inside, there's no problem.

And for the record, even though mine sat really low, it still didn't bother my partner. :)

Anonymous said...

I used it for a month and never solved that problem. It would start to slip out pretty much any time I flexed the wrong muscle; like, for example, every time I had a bowel movement. On the plus side it apparently was working insofar as I did not get pregnant and got the horrible breast tenderness I get when on new birth control, but I stopped using it after a month. I used ortho evra (the patch) for a few years after that, and I actually liked a lot of things about that, but eventually stopped because it was making me sick at the beginning of every month (plus, the evidence is suggesting more and more that it's not that safe) and now I'm back on the pill. Anyway, my point is that the nuva ring just flat-out didn't work for me, and I think I really tried everything possible during the month I used it.

moo said...

I'm way late to this post, but may I ask what changed your mind about the Mirena?

Or did I just not read carefully enough?

Elizabeth said...

I also did more of a twist/figure 8 thing to insert the ring. Like a menstrual cup, it seemed to help if the ring "popped" fully open. I kind of manipulated it a bit to make sure it felt more horizontal than vertical, if that makes sense. (Similar to a diaphram, I guess.)

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NuvaRing holds the similar hormones as many birth control pills this device inserted manually into the vagina, where it is left for 3 weeks.