17 October 2008

Date #7: Tonight!

Mr. Coffee and I talked for the first time all week last night. He's had colleagues in from overseas this week, so he's been busy with meetings and dinners and the like. The colleagues left yesterday, but he had to be on a conference call with them at 8:00 a.m. their time this morning, which is . . . 3:00 a.m. our time. Ouch. I don't think we'll be staying up late tonight.

I am looking forward to a night off, and the longest block of time Mr. Coffee and I have ever spent together. I should be at his house by 4:15 or so this afternoon, and I'm scheduled to pick Maddie and Riley up around 9:00 tomorrow morning. Ahhhh. As of last night, Mr. Coffee had our dinner planned and wine chosen; he's cooking fish this time. And he promised me another cappuccino in bed tomorrow morning.

I will post an update over the weekend.

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Never heard from Mr. Tango. L-A-M-E.

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Having dinner with Internet Guy #3 on Tuesday. Although I know that one should avoid having expectations, I expect that he will be right in the middle of the spectrum between Mr. Tango (bad) and Mr. Coffee (awesome). We'll see.

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Here is an Internet profile I chose not to respond to:
I am a good looking, physically fit man looking for the same type young lady. I would ideally like to meet someone goodlooking, dark, physically fit, knows how to dance(must have rhythm), can cook,self supporting and is a romantic individual.
I find this type of profile to be pretty typical. Short, poorly written, vague, no details about him, only details about what he wants. Sure, it's hard to condense yourself into a few paragraphs, and not everyone is a writer, I get that. But really. Could you at least try?

25 comments:

Two Peas In a Pod said...

Have fun on your date tonight!!! :)

Ginevra said...

At least he knows how to spell "physically." Or use the spellcheck, anyway.

Have a great time, especially the comfortable bed and the cappuccino! (And the part in between getting into bed and drinking the cappuccino.)

xo,
G

Watercolor said...

Fun!

So, at what point do you and Mr. Coffee decide to be monogamous and give it a serious go? Does he know you are still looking? Not prying - I don't want the answers. Just something to think about. This is about where I would shut down everyone else and have the talk where we agree to only see one another, is all.

Giovanna Diaries said...

Cappuccino from Mr. Coffee!
Sounds like heaven!
Hope you have a great time. Enjoy. And can you manage to get a picture of him already...not for the blog but for your real life friends who are dying to know.

Donn24g said...

I cant wait to hear all the details from tonight!I wonder if he has anything else romantic planned?

Mr. Coffee and cappaccino in bed? Does it get any better?

Have FuN!

Me said...

Yup. Definitely a great example of the typical internet dating profile.

Join me in my sorrow ;)

Ali said...

Oh I will be awaiting the details. Well, some of them anyways. Oh ya the big cozy bed...enjoy it...in every way! LOL

Pam said...

Have a great date!!!!

Pam

Anonymous said...

So, let's say Internet guy #3 shows up and you get along and that takes the same route as Mr. Coffee....

Are you the type of woman that will sleep with a number of men at one time?

I'm thinking there's a 1960's free love thing going on here.

I'm not prying either. No answers required here.

I'm just starting to wonder about your morality.

Anonymous said...

I don't think snick's morality is anyones business but hers.

Have a great time on all of your dates!! You deserve some fun!

Christen

Christine said...

What is WITH your anonymous commenters? You can date whomever you want. Have fun!

Watercolor said...

oh goodness. Just for the record, I was not going the same direction as creepy anonymous is. Wasn't questioning your morality at all. I think your morality is just fine. Just wondering if there are any deeper feelings developing with Mr. Coffee that might take things to another level soon because I am excited for you. :) Didn't mean to stir up the trolls. Very sorry.

justformenow said...

I agree, who cares about Morality...I mean really, dating is all about finding who you fit with.

I am a new poster, have been following along and personally, I see nothing wrong with trying things out...Besides, she never said she was going to sleep with everyone anyway...Give a girl a break...

Best thing to do is, relax, have fun and when the time comes, she will know the answer....

Green said...

He's also not very bright and doesn't expect others to be too swift either - note that he says he can be described by two characteristics, then says he wants to find someone like him, but then goes on to define what that means, despite the fact that he laid it all out in the first part of his sentence.

courtney said...

Have a great time on your date!

And dude, morality is such a personal thing and some people have sticks up their asses and other people don't. Anonymous has a stick.

Keen said...

Hey, enjoy your date! Sounds very relaxing. A night without the kids is always so nice.

deb said...

Also possible: that you stay up having a lovely date until about 2 am, then you sleep and he preps for the meeting!
Enjoy...

Roads said...

Phew. You did't recognise my profile, then. Lucky I missed out that bit about the piƱa coladas.

Well, this time at least.

Kerrie said...

Very wise decision to avoid that profile...anyone who is "looking for same type young lady" needs to be avoided at all costs...they want a replica of themselves but with girly bits. Run the opposite was as fast as you can.

Enjoy Mr. Coffee tonight...I'm sure you will. He sounds so delightful...he puts so much thought and planning into your dates, he cares for yo very much indeed.

Kim said...

Mr coffee sounds wonderful but even if he had colleagues and meetings all week, there is a point where he could phone,like in between meetings and also they don't go to bed with him (we hope) so why couldn't he phone earlier? Did he send you brief messages from the blackberry etc. It just makes it sound like he really likes you but is not super keen.

Melissa said...

Hmmm... it sounds like the PP could be your ol' friend Anonymous again (the same one as before), just trying a different approach to make you feel bad about dating... that seems to be his/her overarching goal. It's the word "morality" that's the giveaway.

This person obviously doesn't have a handle on the modern dating world... the reference to "1960s free love" is the clue there. Who uses that outdated term anymore? Someone who clearly hasn't dated in a long time! Today's dating relationships are about making a connection and going with what feels right, not about adhering to some abstract notion of morality (which each person defines differently anyway, and never really worked even when it was the dominant social construct -- people still had lots of sex, but they had to work much harder to hide it or cover it up for the sake of so-called "morality," often with disastrous personal consequences). Why would anyone want to return to those days? It was a particularly difficult and powerless time for women, in my opinion.

Anonymous, just because Snick feels a particular connection with Mr. Coffee doesn't mean she'd sleep with everyone she meets online. If she did, that would be her choice, of course. But you're jumping to conclusions based on one relationship she's formed. She's not "that type of woman," whatever that means. She is a person who -- with credit due to the modern women's movement -- is empowered to make her own decisions about how she'll run her sex life, thank you very much. So rather than question her "morality," maybe you should take a closer look at yourself and your motivation for posting these comments.

Snick, have a great time! :-)
Hugs,
Melissa

Kim said...

Delurking. Cappiccino in bed...mmm... I can't think of a better way to start the day. Have a great time!

Anon...seriously? Even you know your comment was ridiculous or you would have identified yourself.

Karishma said...

oh, jeez. general message to all crazy people who think it's their right to question snick's judgment: calm down. she knows what she's doing, and what's right for her, which maybe, just maybe, is not right for YOU, but that is completely irrelevant, yes? and to the one who asked if there were intermittent messages throughout the day: it's called being busy, or tired. i mean, kudos to him if he did (in some kind of utopian world), but SERIOUSLY. employment tends to require quite a bit of undivided attention, y'know, just a thought.

and to snick: i'm de-lurking just to say - congrats. i found you through that cnn article quiiiite a long time ago, and wept my way through every single one of your entries since then. I can't even *begin* to imagine what you've been through and really have no right at all to say "I know," or "I know what you're going through," because guess what? I definitely do now know or truly understand, but I can say that I admire you to no end, and think you are simply amazing for living life the way you are, and I really do not know if I could handle myself with even 10% of the grace you have in your position.

Which, really, is just a *very* long way of saying: Fuck the anons. DEAR LORD, you deserve every bit of happiness you get, no matter how you get it, and none of us have the right to pass any sort of judgment on it. we can only thank you for letting us in on the story, and hope that you keep letting us, for the sake of all of us who think that you are incredible.

and that is basically an outpouring of all I have wanted to say since I started reading. :)

Astrogirl426 said...

I do sometimes think people have lost their ever-lovin mind. "I'm just starting to wonder about your morality," comes off as a bit supercilious, wouldn't you say? Personally, I'm starting to wonder about whether Anonymous, above, is in possession of a pair (and that question applies regardless of gender). Questioning your morality while not even having the juevos to put one's own name on it is pretty damn funny in my book.

FingKASIL said...

Anonymous: I am starting to question *your* morality (and your ethics, as you remain a coward without a name). I notice you spend a lot of time passing judgment on others. Last time I checked, judging others was considered amoral. "Judge not lest ye be judged?" "Let he among you who hath never sinned cast the first stone?" Any of this sound familiar, church lady/man?