Oh, happy day. The tube has been removed from GH's nose. My feared scenario of gushing blood was not realized, although there was a small amount of bleeding that the doctor deemed normal. GH does have to keep a Vaseline-coated cotton ball up his nose for a few days, but this is nothin' compared to the saline filled tube. A walk in the park, really.
The pressure from the tube did cause GH's nose to bruise fairly severely on the right side. Looks like he got punched in the face on the playground. So the discomfort is not entirely gone, but it is much lessened.
To celebrate, GH announced, "I am going to go home and sleep on my face all afternoon."
Now there's a glimpse of the guy who has been missing for the past three days. His return was not as immediate or complete as I had hoped, but he did reach out and hold my hand in the car, and he did give the babies an unsolicited pat, so I can see that he's in there, emerging slowly, and that's enough for me today.
Moi
- Snickollet
- I'm a mother and a widow, and a whole lot of other things. Here, though, I tend to write about parenting, grief, and their intersection.
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Yay Snick! I'm happy for both of you. You're in my thoughts.
I'm glad that he got the tube out. It must be hard for you to see him diminished, not the person you have always known.
Aside from everything you guys are going through, I think for a lot of men the reality of parenthood doesn't sink in until they actually see and hold the babies.
I'm glad the tube is gone and that GH can reach outside himself to touch you. You're in my thoughts all the time. I wish so much that I could help.
Hallelujah--thinking of you both (and the smaller two, as well)
Re: men and the reality of parenthood, I think it's absolutely true that until the baby is a tangible thing, it's too abstract for many men to comprehend. I feel the babies move all the time, I feel the changes in my body, I go to all the appointments and see all the ultrasounds. GH has so many of his own appointments that he can't always come with me to mine, so he's even missing out on some of that reality-creating experience. He did get to feel a good, hard thump yesterday--someone was hungry for dinner and I was taking way to long to make it!
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