tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post7603737471628341524..comments2024-03-20T01:12:06.791-07:00Comments on Snickollet: AmbitionSnickollethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14123630374052898460noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-79911946560068823492014-04-18T10:20:34.788-07:002014-04-18T10:20:34.788-07:00You cannot get these days back. If you want to ho...You cannot get these days back. If you want to hold on to them, you might as well. And you were not made callous by John's death...you were deeply, heartily distracted by it. That's something entirely different. That would be the reason for the delay in feeling the deep attachment, in my opinion. I'm proud of you for knowing and chasing your dreams. Follow your bliss. It's Yankee, Transferredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06627693160131161133noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-69467255519535441972014-03-25T05:29:23.627-07:002014-03-25T05:29:23.627-07:00Thank you for this blog - it has helped in so many...Thank you for this blog - it has helped in so many ways. I read it from "cover to cover" I was sad when it came to the end but from your previous posts it sounds like you are doing well. All of us out in the blogosphere wish you the best!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-86454536291513741462013-08-20T01:45:18.178-07:002013-08-20T01:45:18.178-07:00Sorry - never meant to be anonymous. That previous...Sorry - never meant to be anonymous. That previous message was from me. BiancaWnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-54795820010308181322013-08-20T01:44:17.749-07:002013-08-20T01:44:17.749-07:00Just wanted to drop you a quick message to say hi ...Just wanted to drop you a quick message to say hi and that I pop over every now and then to see if you have posted anything. Hope you are well. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-68393042337853080162013-06-30T08:43:14.236-07:002013-06-30T08:43:14.236-07:00I can understand the need to not add new responsib...I can understand the need to not add new responsibilities when you already have a completely full schedule. All of the outside factors are irrelevant, the relevant part is doing what is best for yourself and your family. You have an opportunity at work but you also have opportunities at home.<br /><br /><br /><a href="http://online-phd-uk.co.uk/" rel="nofollow">Please visit My Webblog</a> <br />Deborah - What is a Split-Site PhD?http://online-phd-uk.co.uk/online-phd-uk-what-is-a-split-site-phd-list-of-uk-universities/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-73924347021995779652013-05-30T17:10:39.970-07:002013-05-30T17:10:39.970-07:00I'm a senior associate at a law firm and I thi...I'm a senior associate at a law firm and I think about this stuff all. the. time. I don't want to fail, but I also don't want to succeed (too much) because I want to be with my kids every possible moment. Damn is it tricky. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-36729893662371341152013-05-03T03:03:31.276-07:002013-05-03T03:03:31.276-07:00Wow - I am so glad I'm not the only one that d...Wow - I am so glad I'm not the only one that didn't feel that instant connection to their kids but has found it later. I too have found this pull toward my family and the bond are strong and tight!! I agree with most of your other commentors you have made a good decision based on your own family needs now however I must agree with one commentor who said you should not just assume you are Mizasiwahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01998671877747912475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-16143909744528864702013-05-02T15:23:29.401-07:002013-05-02T15:23:29.401-07:00Oh, thank you! I have been chewing on this same i...Oh, thank you! I have been chewing on this same idea since reading all the media about "Lean In." I work full-time, have a graduate degree, and enjoy my job, but I do NOT want to work more than 40 hours a week, and do NOT want to have to ever put my job before my family. I would hate my life if I had to do this. My kids are also at the stage where they love being around me, and I Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-4445560763658423762013-05-02T12:01:56.181-07:002013-05-02T12:01:56.181-07:00Even as I'm working towards a promotion, this ...Even as I'm working towards a promotion, this sounds like a wise decision for you. It's good to know where your joy fountains are and spend as much time there as possible. Ambition for ambition's sake seems like an empty choice to me.OTRgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12433339525588500502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-18981355339346417892013-04-29T06:55:11.515-07:002013-04-29T06:55:11.515-07:00I would never doubt your motives or your feminism....I would never doubt your motives or your feminism. But this parenthetical gives me pause:<br />"(I also don't feel that I'm qualified)." If you read Sheryl Sandberg's book, you might think twice about making that statement.<br />Your choice not to apply is a very legitimate one for almost all the reasons you state, but do be aware that you may not be accurately perceiving Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-8298079381332573922013-04-26T21:00:32.654-07:002013-04-26T21:00:32.654-07:00Snick,
It sounds to me like you're in a pretty...Snick,<br />It sounds to me like you're in a pretty good place. I don't think your feelings indicate anything negative, they just reveal where your priorities are.<br />You've found a good balance. I don't that we, as mothers (and as the wives we once were) can "have it all". It's just not possible. Something has to give ... something sacrificed. You've Janinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00949809367923657970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-2807886261827622362013-04-26T08:59:02.581-07:002013-04-26T08:59:02.581-07:00I was in a similar position a few years ago. I wa...I was in a similar position a few years ago. I was asked to apply for a management position which would have been a step up from my supervisor position. I just couldn't do it. I knew that if I took it would lose time with my family and be unable to meet my commitments in other areas. I think that being a feminist means being strong enough to make the choices that work for you.liz smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17233276763504345726noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-14335757740803091422013-04-26T08:17:49.086-07:002013-04-26T08:17:49.086-07:00I'm happy for you. While you might be questio...I'm happy for you. While you might be questioning your feelings around it, it definitely sounds like this is a good decision for all of you. I'm glad you were able to make it. <br /><br />Someone else said they thought you were a "very wise feminist" and I agree. Scrappy_Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14756602327822860399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-79167907977433978392013-04-26T07:15:52.574-07:002013-04-26T07:15:52.574-07:00I think this makes you a very wise feminist! Enjo...I think this makes you a very wise feminist! Enjoy!<br /><br />janetJboohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08885993111102447005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-73296924435611093402013-04-25T21:44:26.959-07:002013-04-25T21:44:26.959-07:00So they do grow old enough to listen to reason occ...So they do grow old enough to listen to reason occasionally. Thank God. Nice post, lady. Let's go and get some wine. Christiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16120883583219857456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-61933029731510529642013-04-25T18:35:59.896-07:002013-04-25T18:35:59.896-07:00I'm proud of youI'm proud of youAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05005760604316241215noreply@blogger.com