tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post891577109399022522..comments2024-03-20T01:12:06.791-07:00Comments on Snickollet: Getting OlderSnickollethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14123630374052898460noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-67494967033937365522007-07-25T18:11:00.000-07:002007-07-25T18:11:00.000-07:00Consider setting a deadline for yourself, to re-ev...Consider setting a deadline for yourself, to re-evaluate. That way, you're not wondering about it all the time, but say, in six months, assess your current job and career, and then do it again in another six months. And, write down what you thought through (in this blog for the bloggable stuff? and elsewhere for the unbloggable). I think the advice not to do anything drastic at this moment is Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-12158733559304219702007-07-25T17:43:00.000-07:002007-07-25T17:43:00.000-07:00I am waaay older than you, and I know very well th...I am waaay older than you, and I know very well the feeling of "how did I get so old?"<BR/><BR/>But I want to encourage you to explore your options and follow your heart in terms of retooling for a different career. I've "reinvented" myself twice, and even though I do have a mountain of student debt, it has been worth it. (Note I was in school for a looooong time and earned four degrees to Rev Dr Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11607665272056430039noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-27790877387839340272007-07-25T15:24:00.000-07:002007-07-25T15:24:00.000-07:00I think a career counselor is a great idea. You d...I think a career counselor is a great idea. You do have a lot to think about, what with the twins and all. I hate the feeling of being bored. My job changes and expands so much all the time that I never have time for grass to grow under my feet. Do it! See a career counselor! Explore your options! And bless you, my dear, for being so strong. <BR/>(Berlitz has a huge office in Boston, by Yankee Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11533568911291967397noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-25379364948694659862007-07-25T13:59:00.000-07:002007-07-25T13:59:00.000-07:00what about teaching or working for an internationa...what about teaching or working for an international school?Marie-Baguettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01149548077358647791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-61309842070737454222007-07-25T12:31:00.000-07:002007-07-25T12:31:00.000-07:00Keep your options open! Start looking around quie...Keep your options open! Start looking around quietly and see if you find anything. I have always looked for a new job even if I enjoy my current job to see if there is anything better out there. Hey - it never hurts to look.Tiffanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07909496319072321333noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-63511395301928788072007-07-25T10:37:00.000-07:002007-07-25T10:37:00.000-07:00My brother and his wife are Foreign Service Office...My brother and his wife are Foreign Service Officers in South America. Both of our kids are <1 and we're already jealous of all the opportunities their daughter will have. The get great support for their family (nanny, cook, very inexpensive daycare).<BR/><BR/>A big con is that unless you're at a large post, it can be isolating because the American community can be small at your post. We visitAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-48252907868409797182007-07-25T10:32:00.000-07:002007-07-25T10:32:00.000-07:00I can understand your need for a change. I too am...I can understand your need for a change. I too am one of those people that always wants to be doing something different... friends and family tease me that I like "projects" whether it is a location change, a job change, a new degree, etc.<BR/><BR/>I agree with indie mama that sometimes you just *know* when the right opportunity comes along. keep looking, the right thing will find you and it onegreyhorsehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12281492705214508596noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-54244656008895695052007-07-25T09:35:00.000-07:002007-07-25T09:35:00.000-07:00Interesting blog you may want to read or as she pu...Interesting blog you may want to read or as she puts it share in a journey through grief<BR/><BR/>http://tiathisisafrica.blogspot.com/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-38374104370390369382007-07-25T09:33:00.000-07:002007-07-25T09:33:00.000-07:00Couple of questions for you ...Was your job making...Couple of questions for you ...<BR/>Was your job making you unhappy before John died?<BR/>Does any work idea excite you right now or is the main goal just not doing what you are doing right now?<BR/><BR/>All this from a woman who did not pay the smallest ammount of attention to the "don't do anything for a year" rule. In the first week I talked to a Navy recruiter {wanted to cover the basic Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-51579624572551395972007-07-25T07:24:00.000-07:002007-07-25T07:24:00.000-07:00Is there any way to make a career move that locate...Is there any way to make a career move that locates you and the kids closer to your family? Their support as the twins grow up will help you enormously, and your support as your parents grow older will mean a lot to them.Maggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03310167742699434598noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-50220462787257345112007-07-25T05:04:00.000-07:002007-07-25T05:04:00.000-07:00Change is good. Go for it!Here's my experience, fo...Change is good. Go for it!<BR/><BR/>Here's my experience, for what it's worth. I'm an editor who has gone through near-constant cycles of boredom and career crises for--yikes--almost 30 years. I've worked in magazines and books, fulltime and freelance. I've also explored various career changes over the years but have always come back to editorial work.<BR/><BR/>Since becoming a parent, Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-36654327339968821252007-07-24T20:46:00.000-07:002007-07-24T20:46:00.000-07:00How about being a writer? It's pretty clear you ca...How about being a writer? It's pretty clear you can do that. I used to think that to be a writer you had to be either in journalism or fiction, but I had three jobs in higher ed, one in the fund development division of a hospital, and now I'm a speechwriter at an international humanitarian nonprofit. It's something different every day, a fair amount of flexibility and a biweekly paycheck with uberimmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17241150570179494353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-42027881409385602362007-07-24T20:42:00.000-07:002007-07-24T20:42:00.000-07:00An appointment with a career counselor sounds like...An appointment with a career counselor sounds like a great start.<BR/><BR/>35 is young. I hate to think of you feeling forced to do something that bores you for the rest of your days..<BR/><BR/>My brother taught English in Japan for 3 years. Besides totally loving the position and the travel he paid off the student loans for his Masters .amyinbchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01633627179582112435noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-60837380395395787222007-07-24T20:33:00.000-07:002007-07-24T20:33:00.000-07:00It is not too late, but don't wait too long to mak...It is not too late, but don't wait too long to make a big change. I am now going on 44, and in a job that I hate in many ways, but pays well, and in which I am relatively secure. I kept making excuses for not going back to school and making a big career change until now it really is too late, for a lot of reasons, one of which being the giant and expensive house we bought 2 years ago (which I Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-32046503181724609812007-07-24T18:53:00.000-07:002007-07-24T18:53:00.000-07:00Lurker #478 here delurking to tell you to go see a...Lurker #478 here delurking to tell you to go see a career counselor. I went and it was the best thing I have done for myself.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-17030673083803329332007-07-24T18:45:00.000-07:002007-07-24T18:45:00.000-07:00A career counselor could be a great tool for you. ...A career counselor could be a great tool for you. Most people are "smart" enough to think through these options on their own, but if anything, a career counselor can give you an outsider's perspective...something that even friends and family cannot totally give. <BR/><BR/>As for stability, there are really several ways to look at it. If a pay cut could ultimately lead to better, happier options, Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-96374018984105822007-07-24T18:34:00.000-07:002007-07-24T18:34:00.000-07:00I went to my 25th high school reunion in November ...I went to my 25th high school reunion in November of last year. I could hardly believe I was that old either. I might have skipped it except that one of the few people I wanted to see came all the way from Holland so I figured I could suck it up and drive the two hours. It was pretty odd seeing everyone looking grown up, but it was definitely more difficult to recognize the men than the women ccinnkeeperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05427736565137202323noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-23659807997554774132007-07-24T18:16:00.000-07:002007-07-24T18:16:00.000-07:00Which languages are you proficient in? Harvard jus...Which languages are you proficient in? Harvard just posted something for Slavic languages. If that helps at all.Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09745262857388007041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-67287883496382557942007-07-24T17:56:00.000-07:002007-07-24T17:56:00.000-07:00We know a career counselor - she's married to our ...We know a career counselor - she's married to our photographer!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-27912474227589630552007-07-24T15:23:00.000-07:002007-07-24T15:23:00.000-07:00From someone old enough to be your mother, here're...From someone old enough to be your mother, here're some thoughts on parenting while employed:<BR/><BR/>Although I'm not a single parent, my husband became self employed when our children were in early elementary school. Maintaining an income became his top priority which meant I was left to hold down house, home and family most of the time and often felt like a single parent. <BR/><BR/>At the Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-1031386469938406292007-07-24T13:46:00.000-07:002007-07-24T13:46:00.000-07:00You do what you feel you need to do, and gosh no, ...You do what you feel you need to do, and gosh no, thirty-five is not too old to start something new! Good for you!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-73925198525759938282007-07-24T13:26:00.000-07:002007-07-24T13:26:00.000-07:00I know the feeling. I get thet feeling from time t...I know the feeling. I get thet feeling from time to time. You're right...you're ONLY 35 years old...you're right in waiting to see where your thoughts take you but I'm all for change...especially change that will make you happier. Good luck and keep us posted. And about the age...hmm...I don't think I look much older either! You should post a picture of yourself from high school and then we can ~ Jolenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17986515639113108485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-69100848030133795792007-07-24T12:29:00.000-07:002007-07-24T12:29:00.000-07:00I'm sending you an email. I just wasn't sure if y...I'm sending you an email. I just wasn't sure if you still check the yahoo account you have listed on this blog. :)notbeckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04769587365290992641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-33714318515948212812007-07-24T11:59:00.000-07:002007-07-24T11:59:00.000-07:00I walked away from a job that many people consider...I walked away from a job that many people considered me nuttier than a fruitcake for leaving...but it was the right decision for me, and eventually, I just *knew*. I think for big decisions, you know when you *know*.<BR/><BR/>As far as living overseas, being away from family with young ones is tough (really tough), but in Europe at least, childcare options seem to be much easier and cheaper.<BR/Indie Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11225257481584546456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-75590588184814423042007-07-24T10:48:00.000-07:002007-07-24T10:48:00.000-07:00I know a lot of people fear change, but it's alway...I know a lot of people fear change, but it's always been exciting to me. Reading your post reminds me of all that excitement. Possibilities. Options. They're wonderful! Have fun, whatever you decide to do!<BR/><BR/>And I hope you don't mind, but I gave you the rockin' girl blogger award over at my blog (because I do think you rock!).shaunahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11742270945335370549noreply@blogger.com