tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post7768559576183632956..comments2024-03-18T11:27:25.215-07:00Comments on Snickollet: AdjustingSnickollethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14123630374052898460noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-2072616128222847852011-09-28T14:22:11.826-07:002011-09-28T14:22:11.826-07:00It'll all shake out. Try not to worry too much...It'll all shake out. Try not to worry too much. She'll find her place in the group. Also, the playdates with classmates are a great idea! And meeting up at certain playgrounds in the neighborhood is also a good idea that we've tried.Kathleennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-86029914527455827102011-09-28T10:48:43.479-07:002011-09-28T10:48:43.479-07:00You really need to find a way to help her feel com...You really need to find a way to help her feel comfortable and confident approaching new kids to make friends. If you cannot come up with an idea, ask someone you know who is outgoing to help Maddie. It breaks myheart to hear she feels lonely.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-53455149075700010602011-09-28T07:48:10.171-07:002011-09-28T07:48:10.171-07:00we went through something similar with my now 9 ye...we went through something similar with my now 9 year old, as far as her saying, "I have no one to play with at recess." <br /><br />Our solution was to pack a toy or game that she could bring out at recess. At the very least, it gave her something to do by herself, but more often than not, it engaged the other kids to come over to her, or gave her a concrete opening to invite another Deborahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13736671648946280422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-81185202157755500232011-09-28T04:05:45.112-07:002011-09-28T04:05:45.112-07:00My now first grade boy is a shy-ish kid. I ws worr...My now first grade boy is a shy-ish kid. I ws worried about friends for him in Kindy, especially as his entire social circle from pre-K went off to the local private school, while we went public. <br /><br />First, I voiced my worries to his teacher, and second, I went in and had lunch with him every now and then. It's an amazing opportunity to watch the social dynamic at work. <br /><br />I cooler*doulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07807140304491548467noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-20496661753934807352011-09-27T15:31:25.734-07:002011-09-27T15:31:25.734-07:00I've always been told (and believe) that a mot...I've always been told (and believe) that a mother is only as happy as her least happy child. I'm sorry Maddie is having a rough time of it.Little Birdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06874800042362532113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-68843678590494314342011-09-27T12:32:09.885-07:002011-09-27T12:32:09.885-07:00I hear you. The transition has been bumpy for us ...I hear you. The transition has been bumpy for us too. The school day seems okay but A is a bear when she gets home. The upside for us, I guess, is that the kids barely get recess so I don't think they have enough time to establish any kind of social heirarchy. <br /><br />I think Mads and my A are cut from the same cloth so I am sending you a cyber I-understand- hug.Mama Mama Quite Contraryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09033437220422551511noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-8295630079491849812011-09-27T11:37:08.796-07:002011-09-27T11:37:08.796-07:00We experienced this in the first two weeks of K, t...We experienced this in the first two weeks of K, too, along with the anxiety-inducing (for Mama) "It's boring!" At the time, this was true - color and letter and number review was going on. But now, just over a month in, they are in groups as they go through the centers and the groups have stopped changing and school isn't really complained about anymore. I think C is getting mekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17917552705258680396noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-7870806084024552282011-09-27T09:07:57.772-07:002011-09-27T09:07:57.772-07:00I am 27, and I still remember the slings and arrow...I am 27, and I still remember the slings and arrows of kindergarten sooo clearly. (Maddie sometimes sounds a lot like me - I was "strong," too, and I had the inkling of the idea that I was smarter than everyone else and had better ideas, and it stung when people didn't want to do what I wanted to do.) It also sounds like maybe she's a little bit shy, like me (being bossy was Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16010740125071866268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-8510345310891246992011-09-27T07:55:46.678-07:002011-09-27T07:55:46.678-07:00My 5 year old daughter -- a few months younger tha...My 5 year old daughter -- a few months younger than Maddie -- also has trouble making social transitions. For her, playdates are crucial. They give her a chance to get to know the kids one-on-one so that she has an easier time approaching them during recess. Would something like that help Maddie, especially to encourage her to get to know the new kids?Miriam's mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18444033675329354566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-43732160999504085932011-09-27T07:39:45.714-07:002011-09-27T07:39:45.714-07:00For whatever it's worth (and I share this beca...For whatever it's worth (and I share this because I always find it comforting to know that I/my kid am/is not alone in these things), one of my best friends is a 2nd grade teacher, and she says friendships are the things she most hears from parents who are worried.<br /><br />That was the worst-constructed sentence ever. But what I'm saying is that out of all the worries parents have, Jannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-62356913210339181012011-09-27T06:43:09.404-07:002011-09-27T06:43:09.404-07:00She'll figure it out.
I recently read "H...She'll figure it out.<br /><br />I recently read "How to Talk So Your Kids Will Listen and Listen So Your Kids Will Talk" and you know I'm not the self-help type! The one major take-away for me, because it is also my inclination to want to jump in with advice and a solution for all of N's gripes, was that my advice isn't the most helpful thing for her. She's going CVnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-63816684303423933422011-09-27T06:03:32.603-07:002011-09-27T06:03:32.603-07:00Kindergarten is just hard. Both my kids came home ...Kindergarten is just hard. Both my kids came home and were quite cranky with me at night. It does get better. My daughter was having a similar situation in 2nd grade so I emailed the teacher who kept a watch out for a few days during recess. Every teacher my kids have had (they're in 9th and 7th grade now so we've had several) are very sensitive to the worries about a child feeling leftMel'nihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09429969281503537615noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-46453198224614095352011-09-27T05:40:44.597-07:002011-09-27T05:40:44.597-07:00My strong, bossy girl is having very similar issue...My strong, bossy girl is having very similar issues at school this year (she just switched to a new school in second grade). Someone gave me a great piece of advice which I shared with her yesterday: If you're lonely at recess, find someone who looks like they need a friend and approach that person.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-39960957836877570502011-09-27T03:22:15.604-07:002011-09-27T03:22:15.604-07:00Kindergarten can be a hard adjustment for kids eve...Kindergarten can be a hard adjustment for kids even if they've gone to pre-K. I know, my 5 year old is there too... she's in speech and doesn't talk much so her stories never seem to match up with reality. She's gotten into trouble more in the past month and a half than her older sister has in 5 years of school. Sigh. She's aggressive and a fighter (usually only to correct an Arwenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13913493536142196893noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-57449526783207548202011-09-27T01:44:54.858-07:002011-09-27T01:44:54.858-07:00My son is 5 as well and will be going to the '...My son is 5 as well and will be going to the 'big school' for a second year of grade R (pre school year) next year. I can see how as he gets closer to six the way he deals with his emotions is getting the best of him and I have found myself asking the same questions - how do you help them when they are so little experiencing something so BIG. poor little girl I hope this time passes Mizasiwahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01998671877747912475noreply@blogger.com