tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post7559472767329664937..comments2024-03-18T11:27:25.215-07:00Comments on Snickollet: One Who Knew HimSnickollethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14123630374052898460noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-33101141165313746992009-09-16T17:55:07.411-07:002009-09-16T17:55:07.411-07:00WAY too young. Its so unfair.
I'm glad you got...WAY too young. Its so unfair.<br />I'm glad you got the chance to have that evening with his friend and that the friend was open and sharing about his own grief.Cloverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05183249495152641708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-2016856195397425832009-08-30T22:23:18.144-07:002009-08-30T22:23:18.144-07:00John DID die far too soon, far, far too soon and I...John DID die far too soon, far, far too soon and I am so sorry for that. For you, his children and all who loved him.<br /><br />I am however glad to hear you say he enriched your life. Besides helping give you two completely gorgeous children I am happy to hear when all is said and done he enriched your life.<br /><br />You have gone through so much pain coming to this realization and it is so amyinbchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01633627179582112435noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-88680228002767781742009-08-30T17:55:02.042-07:002009-08-30T17:55:02.042-07:00Sounds like a great evening. There's something...Sounds like a great evening. There's something wonderful about being with someone else who knows. Who even relates stories and perspectives you've never experienced of your lost loved one. <br /><br />After my surgery, being cared for by my Mom's best friend was like living with a treasure chest of memories. It is strange to have friends who don't know what she was like, how much OTRgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12433339525588500502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-56124825580355982462009-08-30T13:31:50.769-07:002009-08-30T13:31:50.769-07:00I have experienced loss...both parents, and four s...I have experienced loss...both parents, and four siblings. At the age of 13 yrs. she raised 2 sets of twins and 3 other siblings (when her Mom passed away at the age of 42 yrs), she'd been a "Mom" all her life. When she married at 18 she birthed 10 children. Mom was a very loving, understanding, gentle soul...and very, very wise. I still miss her, even after 18 yrs. I'll Junehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02318147453535633966noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-16894699211766519372009-08-30T06:37:01.132-07:002009-08-30T06:37:01.132-07:00While my experience is nothing like losing John ha...While my experience is nothing like losing John has been to you - I know that feeling of loss and frustration regarding people who "didn't know" John.<br /><br />I'd been told I wouldn't be able to have children before my Dad died but didn't tell him. Rather, I said that "when" I had a baby boy, I would name the baby after him. My Dad was one of the most So Not Wishy Washyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06296994148042933571noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-16268963718156858212009-08-29T10:55:28.785-07:002009-08-29T10:55:28.785-07:00Jen (from above...), thank you for seconding that ...Jen (from above...), thank you for seconding that feeling. I'm having a rough day today. I lost my grandmother in February. For 28 years, she WAS my mother. Now I feel like I've been orphaned twice. Feeling very alone... And there aren't many people who can understand that coming from a woman who lives with her husband and two children!Little Birdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06874800042362532113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-58912228806951220322009-08-28T15:41:11.528-07:002009-08-28T15:41:11.528-07:00My mother died when I was 24, and many of my frien...My mother died when I was 24, and many of my friends now never met her. My late husband never met her. But I've recently reconnected with an old friend who did know my mother, and I so appreciate that extra tie. As Heather said, "Yes, she did exist!"Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07711099868038554656noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-44582825490152315072009-08-28T12:53:01.298-07:002009-08-28T12:53:01.298-07:00I lost my mother when I was 18. My husband and ch...I lost my mother when I was 18. My husband and children never knew her. I spend the majority of my time with people who only know me 'after'. I recently discovered that a neighbor, whose daughter is friends with my daughter, is the child of one of my mother's sorority sisters (I'll wait while you reread that -- its a bit convoluted). Anyway, I met the woman (the sorority Little Birdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06874800042362532113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-22635894057952048742009-08-28T11:05:28.890-07:002009-08-28T11:05:28.890-07:00I'm glad you had the opportunity to see Mike.I'm glad you had the opportunity to see Mike.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-14854254867064484622009-08-28T09:52:10.812-07:002009-08-28T09:52:10.812-07:00I just wanted to say that as someone who met, knew...I just wanted to say that as someone who met, knew, and loved John from high school onwards, yes to loving his humor, yes to loving and being amazed by his compassion, and yes to his dying too, too soon.Leahnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-51304178525039123762009-08-28T09:30:40.746-07:002009-08-28T09:30:40.746-07:00For what it's worth, while I can't say rea...For what it's worth, while I can't say reading this blog has helped me know John, it has made me feel his loss. It's made me wish I had known him.yatimahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08142518546357757874noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-51372895761443990252009-08-28T07:19:06.767-07:002009-08-28T07:19:06.767-07:00Hugs.Hugs.Liz Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09469435277058701080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-2135382537296883972009-08-28T06:42:43.258-07:002009-08-28T06:42:43.258-07:00Grief is a journey that our enemy death imposes on...Grief is a journey that our enemy death imposes on us, so rudely! I hope you find comfort in friends, surroundings and spiritually. Thanks for your posts.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-63649212106007850532009-08-28T06:21:33.974-07:002009-08-28T06:21:33.974-07:00I can't comprehend your loss. I imagine that t...I can't comprehend your loss. I imagine that time makes you more accustomed to it, but the feelings are probably always, as you say, at least dormant.<br /><br />For me, I think your story is a reminder to reach out, spend real time with friends and family, and not wait for later.Sadiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04042551936789254047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-71039738983357763942009-08-27T23:55:25.173-07:002009-08-27T23:55:25.173-07:00I don't come here that often, but when I do I ...I don't come here that often, but when I do I am always glad for your blog. Bless you and yours, Snickollet.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-87892798979819964072009-08-27T23:47:26.183-07:002009-08-27T23:47:26.183-07:00While it was nothing at all like losing a spouse, ...While it was nothing at all like losing a spouse, my in-laws died six weeks apart, less then six months after my husband and I married. Having our children five and seven years later was a significant reminder that we were both still grieving for the experiences and parts of our lives (and our childrens' lives) that they would never see. Life is cruel sometimes.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com