tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post6533877713880247496..comments2024-03-20T01:12:06.791-07:00Comments on Snickollet: Things You Don't Think AboutSnickollethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14123630374052898460noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-7044333125001538792007-04-19T08:04:00.000-07:002007-04-19T08:04:00.000-07:00Having just done my taxes for the last several yea...Having just done my taxes for the last several years, not that caregiver stress and widowers fog had anything to do with the procrastination,<BR/>on the signature line, write or type,<BR/> deceased and the date of death<BR/>the IRS will wait for you to file as long as you dont owe any aditional $$ there is no penality. usually.<BR/>EdAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-12716237710064396922007-04-18T08:29:00.000-07:002007-04-18T08:29:00.000-07:00Just so you know, you can have a representative ta...Just so you know, you can have a representative take care of Social Security stuff (the survivor's benefits -- if you have a job, yours will likely be phased out, but the children will receive theirs until they are 18). The representative doesn't have to be a lawyer -- I'd just pick an organized and diligent friend. You just have to sign a form (they can get it from the SSA website) authorizingAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-83938422595136868322007-04-18T06:12:00.000-07:002007-04-18T06:12:00.000-07:00I was able to get the bank to deposit a check made...I was able to get the bank to deposit a check made out to my deceased father into his estate account. Even though I filed for him as deceased, they still made a check out to him. Not the only craziness I found, either.<BR/><BR/>I've only just found you and have read much in the last few days. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.owlfanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16864203297228110988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-67370644122885841542007-04-17T19:45:00.000-07:002007-04-17T19:45:00.000-07:00copies, copies and patience! I had to send the re...copies, copies and patience! I had to send the refund check back to get reissued in my name! My gentle spouse died the day after tax day...<BR/><BR/>and expect the bureacracy and junk mail to pop up from time to time (jury duty!). Twenty years this week and I still get mail for him once a month...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-24623350622462927382007-04-17T12:24:00.000-07:002007-04-17T12:24:00.000-07:00I just came upon your blog and spent the last 2 da...I just came upon your blog and spent the last 2 days reading your archives. I imagine that nothing anyone can say can heal your hurt. I'm glad you have your family right now. Also, please know that there are many of us who don't know you personally but are thinking about you and your babies. You are an amazing person.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-46574247171839360572007-04-17T11:59:00.000-07:002007-04-17T11:59:00.000-07:00Oh my God. I hate taxes. I wouldn't have thought...Oh my God. I hate taxes. I wouldn't have thought about it ether. What a pain!Lhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12635877618193159522noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-71684059853519622832007-04-17T11:56:00.000-07:002007-04-17T11:56:00.000-07:00Hello:Just came upon your blog today and read your...Hello:<BR/>Just came upon your blog today and read your entire archive. My deepest, deepest condolences to you and your family. My sister died 9 months after being diagnosed with long cancer - I hate cancer too.<BR/>Kelly in CanadaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-70096454726645020262007-04-17T11:18:00.000-07:002007-04-17T11:18:00.000-07:00Yes, simply write Deceased where his name would be...Yes, simply write Deceased where his name would be. They do not need a copy of the death certificate. But as michele said, do get plenty of copies of the death certificate (I got about five I think). Sometimes, they don't have the cause listed on the orignal cert. and you have to wait for the amended one which does list cause. This is usually necessary for life insurance etc.<BR/><BR/>There Biancahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08470592890832202511noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-89324417353548615422007-04-17T11:15:00.000-07:002007-04-17T11:15:00.000-07:00Oh...all that miserable busy-ness and bureacracy. ...Oh...all that miserable busy-ness and bureacracy. Bravo for achieving that signature last week...and hoping that there is a way through the tax issue without too much misery for you. When my parents died I was 18, and had, not surprisingly, no money of my own...and their accounts were frozen on death, so I had a mad few weeks where I was having to borrow from school friends to eat...the system isKathrynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09171138485811816831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-80635006857341984392007-04-17T10:24:00.000-07:002007-04-17T10:24:00.000-07:00I am sorry for all the bureaucratic bs you are goi...I am sorry for all the bureaucratic bs you are going through and all you will still have to go through.<BR/>Maybe this will help, just a little-- I heard on the radio this morning that because of the noreaster the deadline for MA residents has been extended by two full days, so until midnight Th now. Maybe if you wait until tomorrow, you will be able to talk to someone on the phone. <BR/>I am soJuliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09745262857388007041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-89771699369231082632007-04-17T10:22:00.001-07:002007-04-17T10:22:00.001-07:00I realize words from a stranger can't speak adequa...I realize words from a stranger can't speak adequately to your loss, but I'm so sorry and keeping you and your twins in my thoughts. As to this specific tax hassle, my mom used to work in tax preparation, and she seconds the suggestion above that you write "deceased" next to his name where the signature is required.<BR/><BR/>ShayneeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-63762974519715733002007-04-17T10:22:00.000-07:002007-04-17T10:22:00.000-07:00I can't believe how you are handling things. I can...I can't believe how you are handling things. I can only hope that I could be like you if God forbid I had to go through what you have.<BR/>Your twins are VERY lucky.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-34736129594618819902007-04-17T10:03:00.000-07:002007-04-17T10:03:00.000-07:00Well for crying out loud, if the IRS can't find it...Well for crying out loud, if the IRS can't find it in their collective hearts to grant you an extension then I don't see why they give them out at all. That said, if I were you, NOT SUGGESTING THAT YOU DO IT OR ANYTHING, I would just have someone ELSE forge his signature so that I could honestly say I didn't do it and send the effing taxes in anyway. I mean geez, your honor, he was ill, and hisAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-68456626464722519762007-04-17T10:00:00.000-07:002007-04-17T10:00:00.000-07:00I came upon your blog today by the many candle lig...I came upon your blog today by the many candle light lid in memory of your husband in blog land. I just wan to offer my support, prayers and hugs! I am very sorry for the loss of your dear husband. You are an amazing woman!Cibelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02361386515177047271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-17428231194957199252007-04-17T09:59:00.000-07:002007-04-17T09:59:00.000-07:00Of course, the IRS is too busy right now for phone...Of course, the IRS is too busy right now for phone calls, but the IRS Web site says to write "surviving spouse" by your name as you file the joint return and send it in. I believe you also write "Deceased" where his signature would go. If you don't have the correct figures, and I'm sure you do, you send in an estimate and refile as "amended" later. That will be a painful process, but you can at Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-47532082141589459952007-04-17T09:57:00.000-07:002007-04-17T09:57:00.000-07:00I'll never forget the story my grandmother told ab...I'll never forget the story my grandmother told about when my grandfather died suddenly(they were fairly newly married). Their checking account was listed as Mr. AND Mrs., not Mr. OR Mrs., and it took her all kinds of trouble and time to get it fixed so that she had access to her money. It's times like that you think people would be more understanding. <BR/><BR/>Praying for lots of peace and Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09762896766377039541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-92024926870798628802007-04-17T09:48:00.000-07:002007-04-17T09:48:00.000-07:00You are doing a great job, my thoughts are with yo...You are doing a great job, my thoughts are with you always. I wish I could help, <BR/>CindyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-46457164363436094652007-04-17T09:26:00.000-07:002007-04-17T09:26:00.000-07:00Dorcasina beat me to it. I was going to say that ...Dorcasina beat me to it. I was going to say that I remember both her and Badger having to go through endless amounts of bureaucratic b.s. after their husbands died. Like being ripped apart in your heart isn't enough.<BR/>Thinking of you. I hope you're looking at a lot of pictures. Keep that happy smile of his alive.<BR/>Lots of love-Yankee Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11533568911291967397noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-72004040526121572152007-04-17T09:14:00.000-07:002007-04-17T09:14:00.000-07:00I have been surprised/appalled at how byzantine t...I have been surprised/appalled at how byzantine the bureaucracy of death is; I am still finding out about details I was completely unaware of, that involve rituals and forms dating from time immemorial but *still* unable to be deciphered by anyone associated with them. Sigh.<BR/>If you have a friend who can help with calls for information, making copies, etc., enlist them! For the long haul.<BR/Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07829089563990675253noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-74662597200511829412007-04-17T08:42:00.000-07:002007-04-17T08:42:00.000-07:00You and the twins are in my thoughts.You and the twins are in my thoughts.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-45686045188623683252007-04-17T08:38:00.000-07:002007-04-17T08:38:00.000-07:00In my thoughts...your ability to keep moving forwa...In my thoughts...your ability to keep moving forward is amazing. On what Michele said, we got a dozen originals when my father died, and still had to get more after that for the various forms, etc. They don't make it easy on you.<BR/><BR/>THinking of you and your package is on the way still...have 2 more items to pick up for it:)<BR/><BR/>Lots of love,<BR/>lil'sisAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-19489170557476091452007-04-17T08:32:00.000-07:002007-04-17T08:32:00.000-07:00Yuck, that sucks. Having to deal with any type of ...Yuck, that sucks. Having to deal with any type of bureaucracy can be so frustrating and draining, hope you don't have to deal with too many issues or problems. Thinking of you and your babies and sending good thoughts and prayers.Angelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03298099759296161682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-24629372190074227432007-04-17T08:23:00.000-07:002007-04-17T08:23:00.000-07:00I'm assuming someone has probably already told you...I'm assuming someone has probably already told you this, but get many, many original copies of the death certificate. It's amazing how many people (creditors, Social Security, etc.) will need an original. Thinking of you, and wishing you didn't have to deal with this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com