tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post6395249140622438712..comments2024-03-20T01:12:06.791-07:00Comments on Snickollet: Rings (A Three-Part Tale in Reverse Chronological Order)Snickollethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14123630374052898460noreply@blogger.comBlogger47125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-91425723471370116912008-07-22T18:12:00.000-07:002008-07-22T18:12:00.000-07:00Thanks, Snickollet (although I now know your real ...Thanks, Snickollet (although I now know your real name too...thanks! =)), for this post. As a fellow widow, I think it's fantastic how you're showing to nonwidowed people one really challenging, weighted aspect to the grief experience.<BR/><BR/>I felt some of the same way about my wedding ring. I stopped wearing it around 6-7 months after Charley died--I can't remember now if I simply switched itCandicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11637366044613952294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-6891254169812811512008-07-21T21:48:00.000-07:002008-07-21T21:48:00.000-07:00Oh, Snick, thank you for sharing the story of the ...Oh, Snick, thank you for sharing the story of the rings. But mostly, I wanted to thank you for sharing a story about John. I love hearing them, whenever you feel inclined to share them.Keenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01408342210540348611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-79762210964198376012008-07-18T22:41:00.000-07:002008-07-18T22:41:00.000-07:00I know that I don't have the right words; just a m...I know that I don't have the right words; just a mark here on the "page" to let you know I've been touched and you're in my thoughts.T.Allenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07288157852760931385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-81721873595315888942008-07-18T17:34:00.000-07:002008-07-18T17:34:00.000-07:00Oh my goodness! My heart is coming out of my chest...Oh my goodness! My heart is coming out of my chest. <BR/>I just found your blog and read this post. It was so touching and honest. It seemed as if it came right from your heart. <BR/>I will continue reading your blog, in a reverse chronological order.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-72436689033304842022008-07-18T13:31:00.000-07:002008-07-18T13:31:00.000-07:00Gorgeous, beautifully written post.I am eager to h...Gorgeous, beautifully written post.<BR/><BR/>I am eager to hear the tattoo story...Jane Roperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11326626413173509209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-66593696706442800022008-07-18T13:23:00.000-07:002008-07-18T13:23:00.000-07:00As usual, that was very well said. I have such res...As usual, that was very well said. I have such respect for how you're finding your way through this new bewildering landscape and allowing us to share the journey through your words.OTRgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12433339525588500502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-50750718320702447152008-07-18T12:01:00.000-07:002008-07-18T12:01:00.000-07:00This post had me in tears. I met who I thought was...This post had me in tears. I met who I thought was "the one" when I was pretty young. He was killed by a drunk driver when I was 19. In his pocket was the sketch of a ring I had made one night, half as a joke, of the engagement ring I wanted. He had ordered it, and was planning to propose when it was done. I never saw the ring, his mother was kind enough to ensure that. I grieved hard, but I was The Nearest Distant Shorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11009303947633510389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-9061013316600262412008-07-18T09:08:00.000-07:002008-07-18T09:08:00.000-07:00I too continued to wear my wedding rings after my ...I too continued to wear my wedding rings after my husband's death, and wore his wedding ring on a chain. And I lost my husband's ring too, twice, but fortunately found it both times. I switched my wedding rings to my right hand eventually--but really relate to your thoughts about not wanting people to look at my bare left hand and think I'm single, when I still have felt so married. <BR/><BR/>Katherinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04360200736227165539noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-86059475466336700232008-07-18T05:27:00.000-07:002008-07-18T05:27:00.000-07:00Snick ~ you write so beautifully. I'm so happy yo...Snick ~ you write so beautifully. I'm so happy your momma found his ring. Have a relaxed weekend with your sweet babies. Best to you.Twice Blessedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07906558697131862177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-29334664534628631692008-07-18T03:29:00.000-07:002008-07-18T03:29:00.000-07:00i am glad you found the ring... and I have waited ...i am glad you found the ring... and I have waited in anticipation ever since you decided to get the tatoo to see it and hear how the session went:) I have told several people the story of your design and how wonderful I think it is. You continue to amaze me with your strength (I know you dont think so sometimes) but you are an inspiration to many. <BR/>Happy friday LauraLaura ~Peach~https://www.blogger.com/profile/06436851234824883774noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-61020714969047519752008-07-17T20:17:00.000-07:002008-07-17T20:17:00.000-07:00I'm so touched. What a beautiful, personal story....I'm so touched. What a beautiful, personal story. Thank you for sharing it.Threeundertwohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07841404786048246834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-40919347091426037412008-07-17T17:38:00.000-07:002008-07-17T17:38:00.000-07:00I've read your blog for a long time, but never com...I've read your blog for a long time, but never commented. <BR/>You write beautifully. <BR/>I have a friend who was widowed young, and just recently remarried after five years. She continued to wear her first wedding ring, and wears her second wedding ring on the other hand.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08565458472222334451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-21199643354755765132008-07-17T16:09:00.000-07:002008-07-17T16:09:00.000-07:00This was a great post, all three parts of it.This was a great post, all three parts of it.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00298748275161851712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-56485138590224549602008-07-17T16:01:00.000-07:002008-07-17T16:01:00.000-07:00I always read your journal but dont comment much.T...I always read your journal but dont comment much.This post broke my heart,you have the most beautiful way in how you express yourself and you make me smile too when you talk about the little ones.God bless you all.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-1688223950570532802008-07-17T09:30:00.000-07:002008-07-17T09:30:00.000-07:00Once again, you've written a beautiful story that'...Once again, you've written a beautiful story that's moved me to tears. I can't wait to read about the tattoo. I'm going to get one to honor my best friend, and once I do, I'll write about it as well :)Hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17555883796849249096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-89850679911475320652008-07-17T09:02:00.000-07:002008-07-17T09:02:00.000-07:00I have a feeling John and I would have gotten alon...I have a feeling John and I would have gotten along really well - :-) <BR/><BR/>Thank you for the three stories - just as I took my ring off as soon as I could, I was already NOT married long before the divorce, I think of you being always married to John... even when you are ready to take your rings off...Mama Nabihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00873676249958692247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-84894444942985650852008-07-17T08:25:00.000-07:002008-07-17T08:25:00.000-07:00Those were such amazing stories. Thank you for sha...Those were such amazing stories. Thank you for sharing them with us. John WAS so practical...I love that. :) Hope you're doing well Stacey.~ Jolenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17986515639113108485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-33294716494725084532008-07-17T06:56:00.000-07:002008-07-17T06:56:00.000-07:00Snick, I've read and reread your post several time...Snick, I've read and reread your post several times now. If I could write at all, it's what I would have written. Neither me nor my husband wear (wore) much jewelry. I am at almost 11 months, and wear my wedding ring, and have his around my neck. I had wanted to take them both off on what would have been our 8th anniversary next month, but now that the date is approaching, I find myself a bit Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-1755200123442041982008-07-17T04:17:00.000-07:002008-07-17T04:17:00.000-07:00Tears at work.......A few months after my daughter...Tears at work.......<BR/><BR/>A few months after my daughter died I went to a class to make art clay silver where you make stuff out of real silver in a clay format. I made a pendant in the shape of a K (her initial) and wear it most days. I feel like something is missing when I don't wear it and also feel guilty for not putting it on. Even though it was something that was only made after she Kendra's momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10347203184232902188noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-9445393835724124442008-07-17T03:11:00.000-07:002008-07-17T03:11:00.000-07:00Thank you for sharing yourself on your blog. You ...Thank you for sharing yourself on your blog. You write about your life and love so eloquently, and you are obviously a very special person, as was John. *hugs*B.E.C.K.https://www.blogger.com/profile/17692965288646024168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-27031823848597427092008-07-16T22:16:00.000-07:002008-07-16T22:16:00.000-07:00What an incredibly moving post.Thanks so much for ...What an incredibly moving post.<BR/><BR/>Thanks so much for sharing it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-6097081232901656932008-07-16T20:43:00.000-07:002008-07-16T20:43:00.000-07:00Thanks for this lovely post. As always, I very mu...Thanks for this lovely post. As always, I very much enjoyed reading it. <BR/><BR/>The girl in me who left one onion ring would say to not be too hard on yourself or try to figure out the forgotten rings. <BR/><BR/>Be you and be happy. You clearly have beautiful memories to hold whether you have the rings on or not, whether people notice or not, whether people ask or not. Do what feels rightmlghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00713687653466256693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-54659208709942979872008-07-16T20:10:00.000-07:002008-07-16T20:10:00.000-07:00All in due time indeed. hugs.All in due time indeed. hugs.watercolordaisyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08918878832628412824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-74832207026344703212008-07-16T19:15:00.000-07:002008-07-16T19:15:00.000-07:00I don't think i would be able to take my ring off ...I don't think i would be able to take my ring off yet either. The time will come, or it won't. Only you will know. <BR/><BR/>Glad you kept the ring and the suit!!<BR/><BR/>~DeannaDeannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06540511589917398622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-60788284767849212342008-07-16T18:25:00.000-07:002008-07-16T18:25:00.000-07:00Sigh- What a funny wonderful guy he was. Cancer is...Sigh- What a funny wonderful guy he was. Cancer is so fucking awful.Cloverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05183249495152641708noreply@blogger.com