tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post4861466028296516350..comments2024-03-20T01:12:06.791-07:00Comments on Snickollet: On TherapySnickollethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14123630374052898460noreply@blogger.comBlogger31125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-32124803884522713082008-09-02T19:58:00.000-07:002008-09-02T19:58:00.000-07:00Beautifully written. Wishing you lots of hugs.Beautifully written. Wishing you lots of hugs.Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01048936523086212165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-40359163721199404602008-08-30T19:21:00.000-07:002008-08-30T19:21:00.000-07:00I don't mean to sound stalker-y, truly I don't, bu...I don't mean to sound stalker-y, truly I don't, but MAN do I wish I lived in Arlington and we could have coffee. I am feeling much of what you describe. Hopeful and bittersweet, for sure.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-87792935899555559662008-08-30T18:23:00.000-07:002008-08-30T18:23:00.000-07:00Delurking to applaud you as you work through you g...Delurking to applaud you as you work through you grief and raise your children. I had a similar epiphany through tears rece tly, grieving the life I wanted with my sons but didn't get to have. Boy, that hurt.<BR/><BR/>I'll be reading...Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03812637630030228124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-42162044609133783482008-08-30T06:33:00.000-07:002008-08-30T06:33:00.000-07:00i'm a new reader...and i just want to say, keep at...i'm a new reader...and i just want to say, keep at it, it gets better, and it gets better in your time.<BR/><BR/>i didn't lose my husband, but i lost my father to cancer three months to the day he was diagnosed. i took care of him every single day and even though it was four years ago, it can still crush me. BUT, even though i fell apart the first few years afterwards, i finally picked myself up Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17072571120206407487noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-13483494226409180332008-08-30T05:49:00.000-07:002008-08-30T05:49:00.000-07:00I love the "aha" moments in therapy. They seem to ...I love the "aha" moments in therapy. They seem to come when I/you least expect it. Good for you that you experienced what you did in your last session.<BR/><BR/>Have you read "The Year of Magical Thinking" by Joan Didion? I'd be happy to send you my copy. Think about it and let me know at wvgurl at yahoo dot com.Aimeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15371122721416715477noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-83936871112296678372008-08-29T22:25:00.000-07:002008-08-29T22:25:00.000-07:00I'm SO glad that you're sticking with the therapy ...I'm SO glad that you're sticking with the therapy and that you were willing to give it time. I know for me it was just important to have a place where I could be sad without being apologetic or turn and hear how that person was doing. A place where it was OK to be all about Me. Sounds like a really powerful session.<BR/><BR/>I can imagine that you might feel lighter with a 'cleaned' house. OTRgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12433339525588500502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-5288623503456651072008-08-29T17:54:00.000-07:002008-08-29T17:54:00.000-07:00I know I always never post comments and just read ...I know I always never post comments and just read your blog from a distance, but I felt I had to post this time. Your writing was so beautiful and thoughtful and introspective. I'm so impressed with you and your strength. I just wanted to give you my support and hope for better things to come. You deserve it.<BR/>lizAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-42686763376479314602008-08-29T14:48:00.000-07:002008-08-29T14:48:00.000-07:00I late to this, having been away, but wanted to ch...I late to this, having been away, but wanted to chime in with thanks for sharing this most recent development in your journey. I'm sure you'll make the decisions you're ready to make regarding the house, the stuff, and that they'll be right for you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-68244835285283715652008-08-29T09:53:00.000-07:002008-08-29T09:53:00.000-07:00It sounds like a life changing moment. I'm so hap...It sounds like a life changing moment. I'm so happy for you.Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15410002407855752531noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-26808845639081452972008-08-29T08:28:00.000-07:002008-08-29T08:28:00.000-07:00good for you Snick, good for you. Hard hugs.-lil's...good for you Snick, good for you. Hard hugs.<BR/><BR/>-lil'sisAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-62376499240967698342008-08-29T08:05:00.000-07:002008-08-29T08:05:00.000-07:00You kick ass.Not just because you're able to reali...You kick ass.<BR/><BR/>Not just because you're able to realize many things about yourself, but because you help So.Many.Others by being so honest.Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01131976831557567016noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-38200431862948348402008-08-29T07:59:00.000-07:002008-08-29T07:59:00.000-07:00hugs. :)hugs. :)watercolordaisyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08918878832628412824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-43350962659673670522008-08-29T07:28:00.000-07:002008-08-29T07:28:00.000-07:00Snick, it really sounds like you're starting to fe...Snick, it really sounds like you're starting to feel better. Yes, your healing won't be tidy, and you'll certainly have difficult moments ahead. But it sounds like things are changing and shifting for you, in ways that are both small and profound at the same time. I'm sure John is proud of you as you make your way. Congrats and hugs........... ~MelissaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-28184119740868633492008-08-29T06:21:00.000-07:002008-08-29T06:21:00.000-07:00Perfect post Snick!You sound ready.Perfect post Snick!<BR/>You sound ready.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-89824954939878486472008-08-29T06:19:00.000-07:002008-08-29T06:19:00.000-07:00I wish there was something I could do to make this...I wish there was something I could do to make this all easier.BrooklynGirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07659760098982933000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-56440245465121843362008-08-29T06:08:00.000-07:002008-08-29T06:08:00.000-07:00I can identify with your post in so many ways. Fo...I can identify with your post in so many ways. For me, leaving the Peace Corps felt like a death-- a death of my potential, a dramatic severing of relationships that I would never revisit, an overwhelming feeling of grief and incapacitation. Upon my return to the US, I spent five years in therapy. Once I realized that my PC experience didn't have to determine how I lived my life, it made a Mama Mama Quite Contraryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09033437220422551511noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-21547769958447959492008-08-29T05:48:00.000-07:002008-08-29T05:48:00.000-07:00Therapy is sneaky like that..you think you are tal...Therapy is sneaky like that..you think you are talking about one thing then POOF, it is something else entirely, and you have an epiphany..Tiffi33https://www.blogger.com/profile/04014269732603003638noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-49468676904080857722008-08-29T05:35:00.000-07:002008-08-29T05:35:00.000-07:00Congrats. After losing my wife in a car accident ...Congrats. After losing my wife in a car accident late last year, its been pretty much the same for me. It does get better - keep putting one foot in front of the other and dont stop. You have 2 small kids that look up to you, and you're a tough bird.Qhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15096222834770809421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-7258863491871962072008-08-29T04:57:00.000-07:002008-08-29T04:57:00.000-07:00I'm so happy you had this experience in therapy. P...I'm so happy you had this experience in therapy. Personally, I was in therapy for a few months earlier this year, but I let the appointments slide lately (variety of reasons - my therapist is out for surgery, we're having trouble with the insurance - but primarily because I've been avoiding). I felt the same way, that I wasn't really getting much out of it, or at least not as much as I expected. Astrogirl426https://www.blogger.com/profile/17741185103804036960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-85745480105455981022008-08-29T04:36:00.000-07:002008-08-29T04:36:00.000-07:00I am so very proud of you.I am so very proud of you.Mouthy Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13390913450937641605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-6667456956516466532008-08-28T23:25:00.000-07:002008-08-28T23:25:00.000-07:00I infrequently have private appts with my grief co...I infrequently have private appts with my grief counselor, the one who runs my young widowed support group. Mostly I just go when I was/am facing a big hurdle (first wedding anniversary, returning to work the first time, selling & moving out of our house, other particularly bad grief patches), so I could be totally honest about how awful I felt. Mostly I pay her the $80 so I can just sit and Candicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11637366044613952294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-11287107868694242762008-08-28T22:22:00.000-07:002008-08-28T22:22:00.000-07:00You are an amazing woman. It sounds like you are ...You are an amazing woman. It sounds like you are on the right track, good luck with your healingSoralishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10134991337688208295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-16959523062241813542008-08-28T22:10:00.000-07:002008-08-28T22:10:00.000-07:00This, your writing, is one of the best, most lucid...This, your writing, is one of the best, most lucid pieces of writing I've ever read on the benefits of therapy and about the way the human spirit moves through grief. I applaud you! <BR/><BR/>And, as a mom of twins, I'm so happy your future date has had the pleasure of experiencing TwinWorld!abernierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13145569216299255785noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-5748254617215081572008-08-28T21:21:00.000-07:002008-08-28T21:21:00.000-07:00Awesome work! I can only hope that I get to the pl...Awesome work! I can only hope that I get to the places you are getting toAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-45981283716460921162008-08-28T20:13:00.000-07:002008-08-28T20:13:00.000-07:00Snick, you give me hope for a future free of the c...Snick, you give me hope for a future free of the crushing grief monster. I hope someday to reach the place where you are today, and I feel ready to move past being my husband's wife in mourning, and forward to a place where I'm simply Victoria. Thanks for being so inspiring.<BR/><BR/>http://www.thefellows.blogspot.comVictoriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04643652092953679967noreply@blogger.com