tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post3869438056162855782..comments2024-03-20T01:12:06.791-07:00Comments on Snickollet: RawSnickollethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14123630374052898460noreply@blogger.comBlogger100125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-58011605125446607252008-12-02T13:47:00.000-08:002008-12-02T13:47:00.000-08:00Snick,I was widowed when my girl was 2.5 so I had ...Snick,<BR/>I was widowed when my girl was 2.5 so I had many days like that (although only one kid, and no night terrors). I had been on meds for many years but was still so low after 14 months (last summer) that my shrink suggested increasing the dose. That was what enabled me to really engage with the fun things again and remember who I used to be -- and date. I'm still on the higher dose, and Supa Dupa Freshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07659738264922395349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-53412199487219768162008-11-21T11:21:00.000-08:002008-11-21T11:21:00.000-08:00My daughter is almost the exact same age as Maddie...My daughter is almost the exact same age as Maddie and Riley, and she's been waking up at night crying and afraid the past few nights, too...this after a streak of sleeping completely through the night, no problem. Maybe it's a developmental thing? And she's also had the same reaction to me (or her dad, fyi) coming in. Sometimes she wants comfort and cuddling, other times she seems to confuse us Janahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04608563619794630680noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-91521436695586847162008-11-20T17:30:00.000-08:002008-11-20T17:30:00.000-08:00Nothing wrong with taking an antidepressant. I re...Nothing wrong with taking an antidepressant. <BR/>I recommend lexapro. It has helped me a ton! <BR/>Why bother struggling when you can just take a pill and be happy.Kerry Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07581127184150686924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-69132699661768456342008-11-20T11:11:00.000-08:002008-11-20T11:11:00.000-08:00There is just no way Maddie is scared of you. I ca...There is just no way Maddie is scared of you. I can honestly (and shamefully) admit that I yell a lot more than you do - I'm a loud communicator and my almost-3yr old forgets about it almost immediately. I'm sure Maddie does too. You are doing the best you can, so be patient with yourself.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-71124817880741053222008-11-20T06:45:00.000-08:002008-11-20T06:45:00.000-08:00I want to second Sarah's comment about the Yaz. M...I want to second Sarah's comment about the Yaz. My OB had me on it intermittently for infertility (2 months on, 2 months off, finally managed to ovulate and baby is due in March. Yay!)<BR/><BR/>Anyway, I would be a weepy, emotional, angry mess for the first month on the pill, and then better for the second. You might stop the nuvaring for a bit and see if that helps. Could be the hormones areAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-18933743630857642242008-11-19T20:29:00.000-08:002008-11-19T20:29:00.000-08:00just wanted to comment regarding the medication. i...just wanted to comment regarding the medication. iresisted taking anything for my panic disorder for years. years, snick. then i broke and needed help. so i tried and it was an immediate relief from the person i had become to the person i was before. and i only took then for 6 months.<BR/><BR/>then i got pregnant with twins and i was so afraid of filling back into the panic disorder art. mameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11586918865232386537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-35635957486689248892008-11-19T10:04:00.000-08:002008-11-19T10:04:00.000-08:00I've been in the same boat-I shouldn't need drugs!...I've been in the same boat-I shouldn't need drugs! If I were a better mom/person I could deal with it all!<BR/><BR/>And then I took prozac. I stopped crying, stopped attempting to tear Husband's head off, and was able to look at my son and realize that he was just being a kid. As another commenter said, life was still there; work/home/kids/relationships, but I didn't have this horrible cloud JMBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12903514053154713614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-36681153639138409322008-11-19T07:52:00.000-08:002008-11-19T07:52:00.000-08:00Also, remember we're entering the shortest days of...Also, remember we're entering the shortest days of the year now. You may not think you have Seasonal Affective Disorder, but if you really don't want to try medication you may want to try a SAD light first. After mid-October I cannot have a civil conversation unless I'm using my light. And apparently they have been useful for regular depression as well. Downsides - you have to find 15-30 Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-69215712927909535662008-11-19T07:28:00.000-08:002008-11-19T07:28:00.000-08:00The Boy had three consecutive nights of what I con...The Boy had three consecutive nights of what I considered night terrors a few weeks ago - screaming, thrashing and utterly inconsolable (which, BTW, made me completely inconsolable, as well). My DH and I finally had to take him in our living room and lie him on the floor where he couldn't hurt himself until he suddenly seemed to come out of his fog and was good ol' The Boy again. It was awful.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-86155508803243663702008-11-19T06:37:00.000-08:002008-11-19T06:37:00.000-08:00Here's one more voice to add to the chorus: you're...Here's one more voice to add to the chorus: you're a wonderful mother and an amazingly strong person. To lose your husband is devastating enough. To have to raise twins alone on top of that is enormous. You are doing an amazing job. Be gentle with yourself.<BR/><BR/>As for the antidepressant questions...Definitely talk to your therapist and get his/her perspective. It can be difficult to Jane Roperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11326626413173509209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-44030058787022626552008-11-19T06:19:00.000-08:002008-11-19T06:19:00.000-08:00Delurking to say - absolutely, that was a night te...Delurking to say - absolutely, that was a night terror. My son, who is only a bit older than Maddie and Riley, has had them on and off for few months now. I reacted the same way you did at the first one. It scared me so badly that he just couldn't be calmed. And then it passed as quickly as it came on. He went from thrashing about to asleep in the blink of an eye. He seems to have no Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-60672989390253734212008-11-19T05:24:00.000-08:002008-11-19T05:24:00.000-08:00I just read this and wanted to say keep your head ...I just read this and wanted to say keep your head up! I find so much inspiration in reading your posts, and I think you sound like a wonderful woman. Hope that helps brighten your day.<BR/>:-)allie ohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17549944960896606474noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-33641431726692869772008-11-19T02:21:00.000-08:002008-11-19T02:21:00.000-08:00I don't think anyone has asked this, but I didn't ...I don't think anyone has asked this, but I didn't read each comment, so forgive if it was touched upon above...<BR/>Did you give Maddie any Benadryl before bed?<BR/>Personally, Benedryl makes me have some wicked vivid dreams (even at a half dose), sort of like the ones you might get when you take a sleep-aid, so that may or may not have contributed to her night-terror.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06761769695844529367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-42427630826402327672008-11-19T00:59:00.000-08:002008-11-19T00:59:00.000-08:00Wow! I don't even know if you'll read all these c...Wow! I don't even know if you'll read all these comments, but to offer my two cents - just TRY anti-depressants. You don't have to stay on them. Like a lot of other people, I wish I had started earlier. I feel like I missed the first nine months of my twins' life because I was so depressed. As someone else said, the medication simply makes me feel like my old self. No more, no less. And Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-80517881101754147312008-11-18T23:15:00.000-08:002008-11-18T23:15:00.000-08:00I'm up feeling anxious and I have less on my plate...I'm up feeling anxious and I have less on my plate than you do. I have not read the 85 comments.<BR/><BR/>For the Maddie thing... my son did this. exact. thing. I honestly believe it is brain chemistry going off at night - the same chemistry that pushes children to rebel, become independent, etc. I think she is and will be fine.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-17920034288401758702008-11-18T22:44:00.000-08:002008-11-18T22:44:00.000-08:00I think she has a night terror - we went through a...I think she has a night terror - we went through a patch like this. Lasted about a month and a half and then it was over. It has nothing to do with you. You can try a natural calming remedy like ResQ remedy.cathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15788508986252339771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-9885574415019066262008-11-18T22:38:00.000-08:002008-11-18T22:38:00.000-08:00Today my son who is 16 mos old woke up from a nap ...Today my son who is 16 mos old woke up from a nap (nanny was here) screaming. He got out of bed, still screaming and proceeded to bag his head on the wall. Our nanny said he was "like another person" "in a daze" "like the exorcist movie" (my personal favorite). He calmed down in about a minute or so but still it sounded scary and it was scary to get the call at work. Can babies have nightmareAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-21778201307391135102008-11-18T21:52:00.000-08:002008-11-18T21:52:00.000-08:00Oh snick, that post made me cry a little...I'll ch...Oh snick, that post made me cry a little...<BR/><BR/>I'll chime in with the rest of the crowd here and say that it's definitely worth exploring the option of antidepressants/antianxiety meds. I was the same way - so resistant to taking pills to help, or even to seeing a therapist. A really dark period earlier this year that landed me into a psych hospital for two weeks changed my mind. The pills Astrogirl426https://www.blogger.com/profile/17741185103804036960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-41257250983305124512008-11-18T21:51:00.000-08:002008-11-18T21:51:00.000-08:00One way that some people express depression is thr...One way that some people express depression is through anger. You're definately not the curl up and die sort Snick, so I'm guessing that anger is the way that your depression may bubble up to the surface?<BR/>Just a thought.<BR/>Love reading your blog- wish that things were better/easier for you.<BR/>Rebecca DAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-12835251891184103642008-11-18T20:25:00.000-08:002008-11-18T20:25:00.000-08:00I feel that depression is a physical condition. I...I feel that depression is a physical condition. It's symptoms might be considered "mental" but there are physical reasons for depression. As Diane said, you wouldn't treat diabetes or the flu as a personal failing, would you? The very symptoms of depression can cloud ones judgement and make us resistant to the idea of getting help.<BR/><BR/>The most important thing is that you talk with your Kerriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10265342069244145810noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-84128949434739630602008-11-18T19:43:00.000-08:002008-11-18T19:43:00.000-08:00Snick, you would not try to set your own broken le...Snick, you would not try to set your own broken leg. You would not try to treat diabetes with talk therapy. Go get your brain back in synch with the serotonins it needs. There is no shame or addiction with antidepressants.<BR/><BR/>I'm sick of the stigma regarding emotional illness. Would you be ashamed of an episode of the flu? Of course not. Do what you need to do to get healthy.<BR/><BR/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-30517702475838131892008-11-18T19:30:00.000-08:002008-11-18T19:30:00.000-08:00Delurking to say that Maddie's episode sounds exac...Delurking to say that Maddie's episode sounds exactly like a night terror. My oldest had them frequently as a toddler, mostly when she was getting over an illness or otherwise had reason to be overtired. <BR/>They ALWAYS freaked me out, even when I knew what was happening. Taking her outside seemed to make her snap out of it, but there were times when, because of her thrashing it would not Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-18371925968950952112008-11-18T18:58:00.000-08:002008-11-18T18:58:00.000-08:00*hug* Hope you find some better feeling days soon*hug* Hope you find some better feeling days soonNancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01131976831557567016noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-68214611044452625022008-11-18T17:48:00.000-08:002008-11-18T17:48:00.000-08:00Snick give yourself a break. Go talk to your doc ...Snick give yourself a break. Go talk to your doc about antidepressants. They don't take your troubles away or mask your "real" self they deal with the chemical portion of your depression so you can deal with your issues. And let's face it your life is not exactly easy it hasn't been that long since John died and you're raising twins all on your own.<BR/><BR/>Jane at baby squared does an winecathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07033530470009978632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-30811093963670185862008-11-18T17:39:00.000-08:002008-11-18T17:39:00.000-08:00Oh Snick. What a shitty, shitty night. I'm sorry. ...Oh Snick. What a shitty, shitty night. I'm sorry. You've gotten lots of good advice here. I would definitely talk to your therapist and get a sense of what she thinks re: meds. I figure they see a lot more grieving and/or depressed people than we do on a daily basis and can put our experiences in context.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com