tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post3820019639361949792..comments2024-03-20T01:12:06.791-07:00Comments on Snickollet: All about Me, Me, MeSnickollethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14123630374052898460noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-71726926266241103372008-02-11T10:11:00.000-08:002008-02-11T10:11:00.000-08:00Our rabbi once had a sermon at high holidays all a...Our rabbi once had a sermon at high holidays all about how important it was to let others help you. Not only for yourself, but for them, for letting them do the giving. About how important it is for a community that each member do both, and not necessarily at the same time. As a person not too comfortable with the taking, I have returned in my mind to that sermon many many times since. This is Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09745262857388007041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-79564582058564931572008-02-06T07:46:00.000-08:002008-02-06T07:46:00.000-08:00Delurking to say this:You deserve to take from the...Delurking to say this:<BR/>You deserve to take from the people who love you because you need it at this time. When you are ready, you will start giving again. It is cosmic karma balance. If you were not so giving, people would not want to return the favor.<BR/>My 2 cents.<BR/>Take care of yourself and the babies!<BR/>xo Annie (a New Englander in AZ)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-65082215758456488092008-02-05T21:09:00.000-08:002008-02-05T21:09:00.000-08:00Your time to give will come again. Take the time t...Your time to give will come again. Take the time to enjoy what your friends give you at this point in time. You deserve it.amyinbchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01633627179582112435noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-30248399190478949232008-02-05T08:09:00.000-08:002008-02-05T08:09:00.000-08:00Happy Belated Birthday Snick! I am so glad you got...Happy Belated Birthday Snick! I am so glad you got some me time and the pampering you deserve. You are a wonderful friend and that's so awesome that your friends are so amazing. Keep letting your friends give, the fact that they do is indicative of how much you also give to them.Angelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03298099759296161682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-86152383328535910202008-02-05T08:01:00.000-08:002008-02-05T08:01:00.000-08:00Happy birthday! And the chocolate bar rules all th...Happy birthday! And the chocolate bar rules all that is holy. Although when we went a few years ago, I was disappointed at how full of chocolate I got so fast. Gotta pace yourself. Sounds like a rocking weekend!Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06784439635697216521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-56837845888788306312008-02-05T05:51:00.000-08:002008-02-05T05:51:00.000-08:00Happy birthday! I'm glad your friends spoiled you...Happy birthday! I'm glad your friends spoiled you; they sound first rate!<BR/><BR/>As much as you love giving to others, others love giving to you. Let them have that blessing. :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-75038670680914999022008-02-04T21:59:00.000-08:002008-02-04T21:59:00.000-08:00Chocolate for lunch? That sounds like my fantasy....Chocolate for lunch? That sounds like my fantasy. So glad to hear you had a lovely day.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-21362387019594497892008-02-04T20:57:00.000-08:002008-02-04T20:57:00.000-08:00Belated Happy Birthday Snick. Mine was 2/2.Chocol...Belated Happy Birthday Snick. Mine was 2/2.<BR/><BR/>Chocolate Buffet, we visited one in Vancouver, BC alas it was after eating dinner so I didn't get to partake as much as I would have liked but, YUM<BR/><BR/>And make choice #1. This is indeed your time to take. You're still trying to deal with John death, being a single part to TWINS and being a working mom.<BR/><BR/>Your time to give will winecathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07033530470009978632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-8346055861691922002008-02-04T17:50:00.000-08:002008-02-04T17:50:00.000-08:00Snick - i too just followed a link to your blog th...Snick - i too just followed a link to your blog this weekend and spent way too much time reading - though it was well worth it. First I need to say, I'm sorry for your loss of your husband. It sucks. Cancer sucks. There are no adequate words.<BR/><BR/>Now, on to your post. You have given so much of yourself to your friends and strangers through your blog. Through your writings (which are soAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-2382421123570189722008-02-04T16:57:00.000-08:002008-02-04T16:57:00.000-08:00Happy Birthday again! I think #1 is the way to go....Happy Birthday again! I think #1 is the way to go. You clearly deserve to be pampered and to TAKE right now, or else your friends would not have done all of that for you. They know you and love you and know that you are always there for them. That's friendship. Sometimes we take, and sometimes we give, and true friendships don't question when or how much, ever.<BR/><BR/>You are lucky, but I Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-61446486236558843572008-02-04T16:39:00.000-08:002008-02-04T16:39:00.000-08:00Happy Belated Birthday! Nothin' says love like ma...Happy Belated Birthday! Nothin' says love like massive quantities of chocolate!<BR/><BR/>I have a two year-old begging for applesauce so this will be short, but I just wanted to say...it's not taking, it's receiving. And I really feel that you bless the giver by letting them give to you. Don't worry...it'll be your turn to give again too, but you have to recharge your tank, first! If it makesdebangelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07475451004512848266noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-3802233514980684182008-02-04T16:10:00.000-08:002008-02-04T16:10:00.000-08:00I think it sounds like a completely delightful and...I think it sounds like a completely delightful and well-deserved weekend of celebrating with those who love you.<BR/><BR/>Like you, I'm a doer and have a tough time accepting kindnesses from others. Two of my closest friends are working to help me see that I GIVE to them when I let them give to me. <BR/><BR/>As a mom who has a friend who enjoys taking my kid and giving me a break, I love that Mouthy Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13390913450937641605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-62764837866575111402008-02-04T15:52:00.000-08:002008-02-04T15:52:00.000-08:00What awesome friends! Sounds like a great weekend...What awesome friends! Sounds like a great weekend.<BR/><BR/>Happy Belated Birthday!Rev Dr Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11607665272056430039noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-8877963473099684362008-02-04T15:41:00.000-08:002008-02-04T15:41:00.000-08:00Well, I for one believe that you are giving by tak...Well, I for one believe that you are giving by taking. I think about you and your situation often. It just makes my day to read a post like today's post. Those of us reading, who don't know you IRL, probably all feel a bit the same: there's not a whole lot we can do other than read and comment. So to be able to read how your IRL friends are taking care of you just makes me so happy. Happier Meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14591016025566097464noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-54263537150461187812008-02-04T15:30:00.000-08:002008-02-04T15:30:00.000-08:00Expectations do, truly, suck. But I agree that som...Expectations do, truly, suck. But I agree that sometimes accepting the help is the best gift you can give someone. <BR/><BR/>And I also think that the birthday celebrations sound extremely kick-ass! I'm salivating over here...<BR/><BR/>And also? Happy Belated Birthday Day!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-24910177565905808492008-02-04T15:17:00.001-08:002008-02-04T15:17:00.001-08:00Oddly, I'm just starting to struggle with this. M...Oddly, I'm just starting to struggle with this. My Mom passed away suddenly last Monday, and since then, people have been reaching out to help in the kindest of ways. I'm just accustomed to being the caregiver, not the care-given (especially where my mom was concerned).<BR/><BR/>I'm trying to be graceful about it, like my Mom would have wanted. Thank you for this post. It helped.<BR/><BR/>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-10945033508370573742008-02-04T15:17:00.000-08:002008-02-04T15:17:00.000-08:00I followed a link to your journal, and spent half ...I followed a link to your journal, and spent half the rainy California weekend reading your posts in chronological order. It was like reading a really entrancing piece of literature ... I hope that doesn't sound shallow, because I cried and laughed along with you as the story unfolded, and I am amazed at the person you are.<BR/><BR/>I think I am hooked... <BR/><BR/> LeslieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-66359042235464818022008-02-04T15:03:00.000-08:002008-02-04T15:03:00.000-08:00well i've been following your blog awhile so count...well i've been following your blog awhile so count myself a blog friend and i think you've given me heaps! heaps of blessings, inspiration, laughter, sad times too .... so keep on giving i say!<BR/><BR/>as to receiving, right now your little ones need to receive from you so in order to fulfil their needs and yours, you need to accept from others - in time, as in the past, will you give back. i Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-61473263560585743422008-02-04T13:43:00.000-08:002008-02-04T13:43:00.000-08:00Happy Belated Birthday! I'm catching up on your po...Happy Belated Birthday! I'm catching up on your posts right now so oh so happy you enjoyed yourself with your friends. Your day sounded just lovely...I hope this year continues that way for you. Happy Birthday Snick. :)~ Jolenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17986515639113108485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-88403006164964231622008-02-04T13:30:00.000-08:002008-02-04T13:30:00.000-08:00Your friends rock! What a great birthday surprise,...Your friends rock! What a great birthday surprise, and if anyone deserves it, you do.<BR/><BR/>I think you should look at it this way: it probably makes them feel good to do things for you, so you shouldn't feel like you are only taking right now.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08520269852156590259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-33409598591758591582008-02-04T12:56:00.000-08:002008-02-04T12:56:00.000-08:00I'll bet you are way more of a giver than you give...I'll bet you are way more of a giver than you give yourself credit for. Go easy on yourself. You deserve it!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-68138656910777921012008-02-04T12:04:00.000-08:002008-02-04T12:04:00.000-08:00First of all, YAY for your friends for giving you ...First of all, YAY for your friends for giving you such a wonderful birthday gift! <BR/><BR/>Second of all...ah. I was previously a giver, too, and I so struggle with this new 'role' I have in most, if not all, of my current relationships (and I only have the ONE kid!). I really like what klynn said above- that by allowing others to help you [me], you are giving. I have also noticed that when I Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-87952148789726283052008-02-04T12:02:00.000-08:002008-02-04T12:02:00.000-08:00I know, to some degree anyway, how you feel. I've ...I know, to some degree anyway, how you feel. I've always been something of a graceless receiver - I don't like taking from people and I'm usually awkward about it. But at the same time, I have to be honest with myself and realize when I have nothing left over to give anyone else, or when giving more of myself means taking it away from others who need it (like your children). <BR/><BR/>Hopefully Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02823849313247320889noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-24612241628066891052008-02-04T11:58:00.000-08:002008-02-04T11:58:00.000-08:00Well, Happy Belated Birthday to you! Sounds like ...Well, Happy Belated Birthday to you! Sounds like you have great friends! Well, I'm glad you enjoyed your day. You definitely deserve it. Trust me, if you truly knew how special of a gal you were, you wouldn't feel so guilty....And I don't even know you that well....so all I can say is enjoy every second of it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-85379755473470765722008-02-04T11:31:00.000-08:002008-02-04T11:31:00.000-08:00I think you may have an unrealistic view of how mu...I think you may have an unrealistic view of how much you actually are giving...on a daily basis. Being a single working mom to active twin babies/toddlers is an enormous burden, and you manage to pull it off with grace (more of the time than most of us with easier child obligations). By allowing others to help you, you are giving so much back. You and the twins are happier and more rested, andKlynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00660732347810470100noreply@blogger.com