tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post3743412885233603511..comments2024-03-20T01:12:06.791-07:00Comments on Snickollet: Should, Should, ShouldSnickollethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14123630374052898460noreply@blogger.comBlogger31125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-64352436324882168822009-11-02T11:31:08.628-08:002009-11-02T11:31:08.628-08:00Yep. Single life. Sucks.Yep. Single life. Sucks.watercolordaisyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08918878832628412824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-12128717213515563552009-10-29T07:55:06.569-07:002009-10-29T07:55:06.569-07:00I'm sorry you had such a crappy day. The stake...I'm sorry you had such a crappy day. The stakes can feel so high, and it's so hard to feel like you don't have it all together.<br /><br />I wanted to just say that as a reader, I've noticed that you definitely have high standards for yourself. And sometimes it sounds like you feel like you shouldn't need support or drop the ball at all...that you "should" be able toAmynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-2392021118258311902009-10-27T11:37:56.852-07:002009-10-27T11:37:56.852-07:00After posting the cupcake recipe (truly fantastic)...After posting the cupcake recipe (truly fantastic), I got completely lost in your blog. When I should have been working. <br /><br />Mostly, though, I'm truly sorry for your loss overall, and I really do hope the cupcake recipe is helpful.Triciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01289937763332185542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-57682138002952530472009-10-27T10:23:47.926-07:002009-10-27T10:23:47.926-07:00I made these cupcakes recently, and they were fabu...I made these cupcakes recently, and they were fabulous and easy.<br /><br />http://allrecipes.com/recipe/chocolate-cupcakes/detail.aspx<br /><br />I hope that helps.Triciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01289937763332185542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-48709669184639661672009-10-27T09:22:19.997-07:002009-10-27T09:22:19.997-07:00When I went back to work two months after my husba...When I went back to work two months after my husband died, my colleagues cut me some slack for a while. I sucked at my job, but I tried not to let it get to me.<br /><br />After a while, I began to take on more responsibility, but never quite felt on top of it. And the weird thing was that my colleagues seemed to become harder on me. My boss was nasty to me in meetings. I think he was trying to Abigailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04628004126702020793noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-10127096718839635542009-10-26T14:51:49.376-07:002009-10-26T14:51:49.376-07:00I second the comment about figuring out strategies...I second the comment about figuring out strategies for the workplace ... even if it isn't with a coach. Academic environments are SO political, SO laden with history, egos, entitlement. They are pretty unforgiving. My best advice (not that you asked!) is to build relationships like crazy. And forgive yourself. A boss on leave isn't exactly a great guide or mentor, so you've been Arlienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-9724243122665953272009-10-26T11:51:02.409-07:002009-10-26T11:51:02.409-07:00I know exactly what you mean, and my husband's...I know exactly what you mean, and my husband's only overseas. Temporarily.<br /><br />Hugs.Sadiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04042551936789254047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-45053314064461726392009-10-26T08:28:00.429-07:002009-10-26T08:28:00.429-07:00(o)(o)jo(e)https://www.blogger.com/profile/01488562158252331555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-4957724295464067992009-10-25T20:28:37.085-07:002009-10-25T20:28:37.085-07:00Maybe we can e-chat at night and be each other'...Maybe we can e-chat at night and be each other's adult? Cause god knows I could use a few more grown ups in my life too. :)Cloverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05183249495152641708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-70550278231316414962009-10-25T00:33:16.499-07:002009-10-25T00:33:16.499-07:00Anyone who's bought Baby Einstein videos might...Anyone who's bought Baby Einstein videos might be interested in this:<br /><br />http://www.commercialfreechildhood.org/babyeinsteinrefund.html<br /><br />CCFC’s ongoing campaign to stop the false and deceptive marketing of baby videos has had an important success. We’ve persuaded the Walt Disney Company to offer a full refund to anyone who purchased a Baby Einstein DVD in the last five Ellennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-58050561400002218432009-10-23T09:58:58.324-07:002009-10-23T09:58:58.324-07:00Yep. Right there with ya.
Sorry it's rough g...Yep. Right there with ya. <br /><br />Sorry it's rough going right now, Snick. xoxoxodjango's mommynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-61685718139998637922009-10-21T15:39:06.522-07:002009-10-21T15:39:06.522-07:00Over the last few weeks I just read your entire b...Over the last few weeks I just read your entire blog. I have to say you are an amazing woman. I am really in awe of your strength and courage. Your struggles became my struggles and I rejoiced and cried with you with. My circumstances are very different than yours but I have to say, you touched me deeply. I know hundreds of other readers have made similar comments but for what it's Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-24855898455361466242009-10-21T15:08:33.370-07:002009-10-21T15:08:33.370-07:00Like our other fellow widows here, I am so with yo...Like our other fellow widows here, I am so with you on this. While I miss the logistical help a husband could provide, even more, I miss the emotional support--even just someone to listen to the minutiae of my day. Especially this week, when I awoke Monday morning after an exhausting weekend trip to a family wedding, to find that 1) I had no heat (three days later this problem is still not Katherinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04360200736227165539noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-2329057505202954852009-10-21T09:07:28.996-07:002009-10-21T09:07:28.996-07:00Wish I could offer something more than my sympathy...Wish I could offer something more than my sympathy and good wishes. I am so sorry it's so tough at work right now, I really hope it blows over very soon. Wish you had someone to help you debrief and share the child/house duties.<br />I just wanted to echo another commenter, you do have a cheering section out here in the blogworld, hope that helps a little bit.Angelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03298099759296161682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-66361467726723945572009-10-21T07:32:32.810-07:002009-10-21T07:32:32.810-07:00Ugh....you just have to keep saying..."crap h...Ugh....you just have to keep saying..."crap happens". Some days at least. I have so been there in getting the bosses' wrath :(, of course not on purpose!! Hang in there. A lot of change, a lot to learn in a short amount of time. And hugs {} regarding the "debriefing". It is a need....but I do say, the glass of wine is a start :) Hang in there.Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04572128334553536606noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-84269555510880096322009-10-21T05:59:08.070-07:002009-10-21T05:59:08.070-07:00Yes, you need to cut yourself a bit of slack, now ...Yes, you need to cut yourself a bit of slack, now and then. Or all the time, to be honest.<br /><br />There's a lot of pointless detail in life. Not doing something pointless, at least not now, can be the most pointful thing you can do.<br /><br />That's what I tell myself, anyway.Roadshttp://thepriceoflove.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-29619066170762689722009-10-21T05:02:40.298-07:002009-10-21T05:02:40.298-07:00Here's one that sometimes stops the train for ...Here's one that sometimes stops the train for one second for me: <br /><br />Don't should on yourself.<br /><br />HTH.<br /><br /><br />x<br /><br />SupaSupa Dupa Freshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07659738264922395349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-20446539208685338872009-10-21T04:53:54.965-07:002009-10-21T04:53:54.965-07:00Right there with ya with all of it, Snick. I miss ...Right there with ya with all of it, Snick. I miss those evening debriefings too, plus all of the help with the kids and housework. Sigh. <br /><br />Even though I also know this fact for myself, reading your words pointed out the truth of it again: "I find that once I start feeling low about one area in my life, I'm more apt to dwell on other things that bring me down." Oh, yeah...Candicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11637366044613952294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-16684368264719851182009-10-20T21:12:07.929-07:002009-10-20T21:12:07.929-07:00Any new job seems fraught with so many possible pi...Any new job seems fraught with so many possible pitfalls. It seems like it would be even worse the more people you have to work with--so a College environment would be even harder. <br /><br />There are often times where, husband or no, I shut down and avoid most of my life. You have so much going on, so many changes, so many new details to juggle. Shutting down makes sense, even if it isn't OTRgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12433339525588500502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-40910927840452185542009-10-20T20:54:38.911-07:002009-10-20T20:54:38.911-07:00I so hear you.I so hear you.amyinbchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01633627179582112435noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-56374567527127887012009-10-20T19:46:40.797-07:002009-10-20T19:46:40.797-07:00I'm debriefing the same way these days and hav...I'm debriefing the same way these days and having a similar relationship to shoulds. Sorry to hear you are caught between the two wraths - along with all the other tough places. No advice, just commiseration.mekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17917552705258680396noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-31224221012228439472009-10-20T19:30:23.164-07:002009-10-20T19:30:23.164-07:00I totally relate to how nice it would be to have a...I totally relate to how nice it would be to have another adult at home to connect and consult with. It is tough going on one's own, in particular not having a close emotional connection to rely on.<br /><br />Some years back I revised my to do list by converting it into an accomplishment list. At the end of the day, I wrote down everything I had done, even if it was only to drop off Widow in the Middlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01598249263166943162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-12260173913655271132009-10-20T19:26:35.016-07:002009-10-20T19:26:35.016-07:00I can imagine that being really hard, especially n...I can imagine that being really hard, especially now that maybe M & R are less of a handful with their routine, you start missing the rest of the benefits of adult company in the evenings. Keep on with the wine and 30Rock.. the dentist will still be there when you are organized enough to make the appointments!Sylviehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03977168100697698429noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-35673632298428174462009-10-20T19:24:29.322-07:002009-10-20T19:24:29.322-07:00My Mom was left w/7 children to finish raising whe...My Mom was left w/7 children to finish raising when she & my Dad divorced. I'm SURE she had many times when the going was really, really hard--she needed someone to lean on & talk to about the day's activities. My heart & thoughts are with you. You're one 'FINE' lady & an awesome Mom. You are doing your best, & that's all anyone can ask. You have Junehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02318147453535633966noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-11333007125188414092009-10-20T18:28:31.294-07:002009-10-20T18:28:31.294-07:00Sorry about work. That is such a drag but we'...Sorry about work. That is such a drag but we're all here to help you process everything. Not the same as plopping down on the couch with someone and pouring it all out but perhaps we can be some help.<br /><br />Hope things get better soon.Mama Mama Quite Contraryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09033437220422551511noreply@blogger.com