tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post3592460358682209734..comments2024-03-20T01:12:06.791-07:00Comments on Snickollet: One Foot in Front of the OtherSnickollethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14123630374052898460noreply@blogger.comBlogger26125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-27845933852060616102007-06-06T19:18:00.000-07:002007-06-06T19:18:00.000-07:00I thought it stood for Great Husband. :)I thought it stood for Great Husband. :)Andriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11555953207285169472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-29636099671072761752007-05-11T19:15:00.000-07:002007-05-11T19:15:00.000-07:00I am so very sorry for your loss. It really breaks...I am so very sorry for your loss. It really breaks my heart for you. I too am a mom to twins and 11 months later I had another little boy. <BR/>My husband did not die, but instead choose to stay a drunk abusive man and I knew that I could not raise my children with him. I filed with the courts and was granted full custody.He was a pretty mean man, tried to actually kill all three babies and I. I The Terrific Trios Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11108320508704133294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-12160837821595353332007-05-02T09:17:00.000-07:002007-05-02T09:17:00.000-07:00I know a woman who lost her significant other, who...I know a woman who lost her significant other, who caught herself yelling upstairs for them to bring something down when she realized that they weren't upstairs anymore. How sad and funny at the same time.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15515406196912595782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-13418025896628443062007-04-25T20:06:00.000-07:002007-04-25T20:06:00.000-07:00I always thought it was Great Husband, which he mo...I always thought it was Great Husband, which he most definitely was.susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12000470374101306070noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-13261926628362200582007-04-25T19:48:00.000-07:002007-04-25T19:48:00.000-07:00Hi - I found your blog through someone who posted ...Hi - I found your blog through someone who posted it on the John Hopkins Pancreatic Cancer site. I wish neither of us had that connection but sadly I lost my mom to this dreadful disease as well. She lived only 5 mos from diagnosis. So, while our experiences are different I bet some of the things that we went through are similar. <BR/><BR/>I am so sorry for your loss. <BR/><BR/>Please feel Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-2140552283495768512007-04-25T18:37:00.000-07:002007-04-25T18:37:00.000-07:00Hollow sadness. I am so very sorry.Hollow sadness. I am so very sorry.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-48650440635505969332007-04-25T18:35:00.000-07:002007-04-25T18:35:00.000-07:00You did a lot of grieving for the life you didn't ...You did a lot of grieving for the life you didn't get to have together BEFORE he died, I think. Which is good. The relief doesn't seem surprising at all. When someone is very ill and suffering, there's almost a guilt about wishing for them to stay alive.<BR/><BR/>People often say they hope not to know they're going to die, but most people who are terminally ill say the opposite. You can never <EMDoctorMamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05187502628715846144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-22804183606615072212007-04-25T18:03:00.000-07:002007-04-25T18:03:00.000-07:00i always thought GH = Great Hubby! which i can tel...i always thought GH = Great Hubby! which i can tell from what i have read, it does. <BR/><BR/>i have been reading your blog since i saw the candle on "A Letter To My CHildren"s blog... i dont think i have commented, yet, because i feel like i have been a voyeur. <BR/><BR/>i have truly enjoyed reading about the relationship you and GH had... you have my greatest sympathy and love and prayers in gypsygrrlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12582163261401343922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-90841094557711582052007-04-25T17:59:00.000-07:002007-04-25T17:59:00.000-07:00More hugs and dittos on what others said.Take care...More hugs and dittos on what others said.<BR/><BR/>Take care of yourself. Pause when you need to.Liz Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09469435277058701080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-52407829551439523492007-04-25T16:35:00.000-07:002007-04-25T16:35:00.000-07:00I always thought that GH was "Good Husband". =):hu...I always thought that GH was "Good Husband". =)<BR/><BR/>:hugs:honglien123https://www.blogger.com/profile/04664865503830892153noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-46783292466895307772007-04-25T15:38:00.000-07:002007-04-25T15:38:00.000-07:00(o)(o)purple_kangaroohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02543172194041505144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-8981080850147106352007-04-25T14:00:00.000-07:002007-04-25T14:00:00.000-07:00I figured Goose Head :-) I am glad to see you are...I figured Goose Head :-) I am glad to see you are getting through. You are a very strong woman and I have found inspiration in your journey. Thanks for sharing....singletraceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15361586713986688123noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-53366863365226566352007-04-25T13:27:00.000-07:002007-04-25T13:27:00.000-07:00I still save things up to talk about with my siste...I still save things up to talk about with my sister later, and then remember.<BR/>One foor in front of the other.<BR/>I'm thinking of you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-65695012517355701932007-04-25T12:53:00.000-07:002007-04-25T12:53:00.000-07:00Same as rev dr mom said....Thinking of you.PaulaSame as rev dr mom said....<BR/><BR/>Thinking of you.<BR/><BR/>PaulaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-27400330304534074892007-04-25T12:09:00.000-07:002007-04-25T12:09:00.000-07:00I always thought GH must mean "Good Husband".Hugs ...I always thought GH must mean "Good Husband".<BR/><BR/>Hugs and good thoughts for you and the babies.Rev Dr Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11607665272056430039noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-16602996196389139432007-04-25T11:51:00.000-07:002007-04-25T11:51:00.000-07:00I'm glad the twins are sleeping better.It must be ...I'm glad the twins are sleeping better.<BR/><BR/>It must be hard to deal with all the mundane details and paperwork when your grief is so fresh. Thanks for continuing to share your journey with us. I think about you every day.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08520269852156590259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-14448364198715376572007-04-25T11:30:00.000-07:002007-04-25T11:30:00.000-07:00From my own experiences with grief, that first 2 m...From my own experiences with grief, that first 2 months is just kind of being on autopilot, going through the motions, one foot in front of the other. Its too painful for your brain/heart/mind to really wrestle with all you've lost, so the best way to deal with it to just tackle the business of death, as much or as little as you can. <BR/>I'm glad your dad is around, sorry that your mom had to Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-22377696185633525532007-04-25T11:08:00.000-07:002007-04-25T11:08:00.000-07:00I did the one thing a day thing for a bit after my...I did the one thing a day thing for a bit after my son died. I ran out of steam about a month or five weeks later and then was stuck in the mud for a while. I guess what I am trying to say is please be gentle with yourself if you loose the drive.Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09745262857388007041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-1182167484203699142007-04-25T11:07:00.000-07:002007-04-25T11:07:00.000-07:00In case you didn't know, the SS benefits are paid ...In case you didn't know, the SS benefits are paid retroactively. So you'll get a check for the benefits from when John died until they get you set up for regular payments.<BR/><BR/>I understand about the phone thing. I heard the phone ring a week or so after Anna died and some little part of my brain said "Oh, it's Anna!" When the reality kicked in that it couldn't be her, it knocked me flat.Jason Dufairhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15496465113883613615noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-46593845244578240592007-04-25T10:26:00.000-07:002007-04-25T10:26:00.000-07:00ouch. Ouch the paperwork, ouch the ache, ouch the...ouch. Ouch the paperwork, ouch the ache, ouch the car, and getting lost. I'm so, so sorry, and I send my love to all of you.<BR/>I'm glad your mom and dad can do tag-team for you. You need all the hands you can get. And the shoulders to lean on!Yankee Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11533568911291967397noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-91297368898236611642007-04-25T10:14:00.000-07:002007-04-25T10:14:00.000-07:00I know. I know. I know. It's those mundane, "my hu...I know. I know. I know. It's those mundane, "my husband took care of that" things that continue to throb the most, not because they were so important, but because they symbolized the glue of our relationship. The things I want to tell him, every single day. The computer problems I can't solve. What to do about our dying cars. The cute things my daughter does, that he would LOVE. The moments of Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07829089563990675253noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-25895623605190102652007-04-25T10:05:00.000-07:002007-04-25T10:05:00.000-07:00Thank you for sharing your story. I wish I had wo...Thank you for sharing your story. I wish I had words to cheer you up. Just know that we are thinking of you and praying for comfort for you. I hope something good happens today to bring a smile to your face.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-69242942256142242922007-04-25T10:04:00.000-07:002007-04-25T10:04:00.000-07:00Sorry that your Mom had to go, glad that Dad could...Sorry that your Mom had to go, glad that Dad could come for a bit. You're adventurous with one job a day, good for you, I couldn't get that far when my dad passed away. I still call his old cell number by accident sometimes and I've saved the very last voicemail he left me, when I feel dumpy I listen to it and I feel better.<BR/><BR/>Thinking of you often, and hoping the good sleep for the Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-16561654368073093982007-04-25T09:42:00.000-07:002007-04-25T09:42:00.000-07:00I'm sorry your Mom has left,she sounds like such a...I'm sorry your Mom has left,she sounds like such a wonderful person, happy to read that your Dad is there to help out. That's wonderful that you're able to actually be productive and get things done, once again you amaze me.<BR/><BR/>That's so wonderful that the twins are sleeping better, you must be so exhausted, so every little bit helps.<BR/><BR/>Thank you for sharing your journey and your Angelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03298099759296161682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-32697495369617145372007-04-25T09:41:00.000-07:002007-04-25T09:41:00.000-07:00I think that urgent inclination to pick up the pho...I think that urgent inclination to pick up the phone never goes away. My mom passed away in 2003--she was only 59--and I still have to fight it. <BR/><BR/>I email her sometimes. Hate to see that bounce message, though. <BR/><BR/>Snick, you're a wonderful mother and a remarkable woman. John was very lucky to have you by his side for the last years of his life. After spending some time reading yourAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com