tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post3421589644998199035..comments2024-03-20T01:12:06.791-07:00Comments on Snickollet: The DecisionSnickollethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14123630374052898460noreply@blogger.comBlogger73125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-35842983712876066782008-08-20T10:36:00.000-07:002008-08-20T10:36:00.000-07:00I'm reading through your archives, and normally wo...I'm reading through your archives, and normally wouldn't have bothered to comment until I got to the new entries, but I had to comment on this one. Reading your blog has made me wonder if I would make that decision, to have kids when my husband was fatally ill and I knew I'd be raising the child(ren) alone. But it never once crossed my mind that it would be unfair for the kids because they Denisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09826021879039424452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-87635503643233128562008-07-13T09:56:00.000-07:002008-07-13T09:56:00.000-07:00thank you for mentioning what isn't fair. why do ...thank you for mentioning what isn't fair. why do people have to share everything that comes into their heads?gwendomamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08439664476465264089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-89758468039717396272008-05-31T20:16:00.000-07:002008-05-31T20:16:00.000-07:00Thank you for sharing this beautiful story.You are...Thank you for sharing this beautiful story.<BR/><BR/>You are brave and smart.<BR/><BR/>Ever since the moment Greg died (when I was pregnant), I have been overwhelmed by gratitude that I have our son.<BR/><BR/>So I know that without a doubt I would have done the same thing that you did.<BR/><BR/>I would love to hear sometime about how you keep Daddy's memory alive. <BR/><BR/>Perhaps I should bringMelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05252415753817950987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-54492557781263881522008-05-30T08:44:00.000-07:002008-05-30T08:44:00.000-07:00I have issues with the word "fairness" in most con...I have issues with the word "fairness" in most contexts. What does it exactly mean? If one person gets 2 Snickers and the other gets only one, you might say that's not fair. But maybe one person worked hard or is hungier or had a bad day. Maybe the other person only wants one, is sick, can't eat chocolate, is in time out, in a hurry. . . on and on. <BR/><BR/>I raised two daughter alone due to a Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-36219987505525379152008-05-27T12:36:00.000-07:002008-05-27T12:36:00.000-07:00What a beautiful post. Thanks for sharing.(And P....What a beautiful post. Thanks for sharing.<BR/>(And P.S. Dr. Penzias at Boston IVF helped us conceive our first 2 boyz.)Sarahvizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07257891014401157085noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-41908852170779525322008-05-27T06:47:00.000-07:002008-05-27T06:47:00.000-07:00What are your thoughs on re-marrying at this point...What are your thoughs on re-marrying at this point in your life?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-4075198862413456602008-05-27T06:44:00.000-07:002008-05-27T06:44:00.000-07:00Infinitely wise, beautifully written.... what an e...Infinitely wise, beautifully written.... what an eye-opening post and just so inspiring. Youre right, life really isnt fair. Thanks for sharing this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-2103444747873955752008-05-27T05:58:00.000-07:002008-05-27T05:58:00.000-07:00Thanks, Snickollet, for putting into words exactly...Thanks, Snickollet, for putting into words exactly how I feel.<BR/>While it doesn't affect me immediately, I'm in the position of having to try to bring my dad to life for my niece and nephew, along with my sister who's a single mom, of course. And countless times we've said, "If Daddy were around, J wouldn't..." or "If Daddy were still alive, A would..."<BR/>Not once day goes by that I don't Krys72599https://www.blogger.com/profile/13794562208024400426noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-41520556254741440902008-05-26T12:22:00.000-07:002008-05-26T12:22:00.000-07:00Beautiful post. I'm so glad John got to be a fathe...Beautiful post. I'm so glad John got to be a father, to meet his kids, and I'm sure they know him.Ameliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10483756694695666215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-67079270556314593522008-05-25T22:03:00.000-07:002008-05-25T22:03:00.000-07:00Beautiful, moving post.I agree totally with Julie ...Beautiful, moving post.<BR/><BR/>I agree totally with Julie above. I also believe little kids can see/hear things that adults cannot. My MIL passed away only two weeks after my second son was born. We did not live in the same state and she had not yet met him. He has of course seen many pictures of her and heard many stories. As an infant, he would often stare at a blank ceiling for long Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-44135971324748890772008-05-25T19:21:00.000-07:002008-05-25T19:21:00.000-07:00I'm amazed that you did what you did. Not in a ba...I'm amazed that you did what you did. Not in a bad way. Your courage to wrench joy from an overwhelmingly sad circumstance is truly awe-inspiring. My father died when I was five. From heart disease that was already evident when my mother met him. I barely remember my father. Is that sad? Yes. Do I think it would be better that I didn't exist than to have been raised by a widowed mother? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-32787873188159676822008-05-25T19:14:00.000-07:002008-05-25T19:14:00.000-07:00As much as I can, considering I can't even imagine...As much as I can, considering I can't even imagine being faced with the decision, I understand your decision. You are a brave and wonderful wife and mother.Janice (5 Minutes for Mom)https://www.blogger.com/profile/03181826427906423606noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-87555635550417853742008-05-25T05:03:00.000-07:002008-05-25T05:03:00.000-07:00What Foolmaker said.Beautiful, brave, loving post....What Foolmaker said.<BR/>Beautiful, brave, loving post. John lives on in them, yes, but it seems that quite a bit of him (the warmth, the generosity, the courage) live on in you as well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-43854013922290587562008-05-25T02:36:00.000-07:002008-05-25T02:36:00.000-07:00totally choked. well done.totally choked. well done.jfoohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16450592126265869933noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-52306130329106233282008-05-24T18:06:00.000-07:002008-05-24T18:06:00.000-07:00I am only reading your blog for the first time tod...I am only reading your blog for the first time today, but I appreciate you and your thoughts. I am also a mom of twins (MA-founding chapter) and you have gifted me with such a beautiful and transformative perspective. Your post reminded of a conversation that I had with my friend's 5 year old daughter. I asked her if she remembered being in her mother's belly. In such honest, thoughtful, andUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04698660303908947179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-35640814354900714532008-05-24T00:51:00.000-07:002008-05-24T00:51:00.000-07:00this is such a beautiful story. your children are ...this is such a beautiful story. your children are lucky to have you as parents. thanks for sharing this.lunahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15455301696832647867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-27080050546948951202008-05-23T23:30:00.000-07:002008-05-23T23:30:00.000-07:00I will admit that I have always wondered about the...I will admit that I have always wondered about the history of how Maddie and Riley came to be.<BR/>Thank you for sharing this very personal post.<BR/>It was important that John be a father and he is. And those two little ones will always have him as their dad. That is significant.<BR/>That is what it's all about.Lhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12635877618193159522noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-51765411096909420752008-05-23T21:09:00.000-07:002008-05-23T21:09:00.000-07:00thank you for sharing. That was so beautifully wri...thank you for sharing. That was so beautifully written. I am actually left with no words. I will say however, that we are one of those families that still believes in "positive thinking." What else can we do you know? when you fear that f*cken cancer coming back, positive thinking is all you have left. Thank you again for sharing...this was an amazing story. How I would love to meet you and the ~ Jolenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17986515639113108485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-80444594678953640732008-05-23T20:53:00.000-07:002008-05-23T20:53:00.000-07:00I LOVE that Maddie can say she misses her daddy. A...I LOVE that Maddie can say she misses her daddy. And she does!<BR/><BR/>Our older daughter, adopted at birth, told me at about age three that she missed her birthmother. She had never met her birthmother, but we had shared the fact that her birthmom had loved her so much, she had decided to let us be her parents because she couldn't care for her.<BR/><BR/>So, yes, of course she missed her Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-30422035763946183912008-05-23T18:13:00.000-07:002008-05-23T18:13:00.000-07:00Like you, I can think of all kinds of ways that ha...Like you, I can think of all kinds of ways that having two parents is a good thing. But there are never any guarantees...people divorce, people die, things happen. <BR/><BR/>I think what is more important is that you and John chose the path you were going to follow. Your kids were wanted and are loved. That's what really counts. <BR/><BR/>And what a wonderful gift for John to experience Rev Dr Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11607665272056430039noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-90772742441158841662008-05-23T17:00:00.000-07:002008-05-23T17:00:00.000-07:00I think people mistakenly think I fall into the ki...I think people mistakenly think I fall into the kids need 2 parents category. I don't. I think I would have done exactly what you did in your position.Sandihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04643493643365324737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-391829839036560772008-05-23T14:28:00.000-07:002008-05-23T14:28:00.000-07:00Thank you for sharing this with us.Thank you for sharing this with us.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-3239085856737442102008-05-23T13:07:00.000-07:002008-05-23T13:07:00.000-07:00Thank you for sharing that.Thank you for sharing that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-58160352595350712812008-05-23T13:02:00.000-07:002008-05-23T13:02:00.000-07:00Snick, You are so right. My father died when I was...Snick,<BR/> You are so right. My father died when I was young and for much of when he was alive he was very sick. I was raised by my loving mother and her "village" of family and friends. It's a wonderful experience to be loved and cared for by a "village". We talked about my Dad frequently. Often my mom would say "don't worry honey, Daddy's in heaven watching us, and he's happy and proud, and Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-38329994058959419412008-05-23T12:37:00.000-07:002008-05-23T12:37:00.000-07:00I think they know John and I think John knows them...I think they know John and I think John knows them. He is there with you guys every single day, every step of the way. And it may sound kooky (it sounds kooky just typing it) but I believe little kids are receptive and can see John in places you cannot. He is there, talking to you, and talking to the kids.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com