tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post2730191400102789410..comments2024-03-18T11:27:25.215-07:00Comments on Snickollet: She's not alone.Snickollethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14123630374052898460noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-90858309722033134902011-10-08T17:40:52.286-07:002011-10-08T17:40:52.286-07:00boy do I hear this...
I'm not sure how to find...boy do I hear this...<br />I'm not sure how to find a decent balance either...nor am I sure there actually is such a thing.<br />family always comes first for me too - hands down...<br />that's the reason I'm still in a dead end going no where job...<br />because it does, for the most part, allow me to put them first...<br />someday...someday there'll be time for me...I hope.darciehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03611334115957929814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-73647916736484192212011-10-03T19:12:07.156-07:002011-10-03T19:12:07.156-07:00Just my $0.02, but, I think a lot of times it can ...Just my $0.02, but, I think a lot of times it can be fair to look at a work situation and say, "Gee. Things are falling through the cracks that used be be caught. Am I being asked to do too much? Do I have more responsibilities without a corresponding increase in my authority to delegate or hold others accountable?" <br /><br />All this "Work smarter not harder" crap is fine Jay Cosnetthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17402435089774564279noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-35426156540860248752011-10-02T22:04:56.048-07:002011-10-02T22:04:56.048-07:00It's probably a lot of things, including a per...It's probably a lot of things, including a perfectionist's tendency to be a bit hard on one's self -- to which I can totally relate.<br /><br />I also wonder if there might not also be some kind of burnout or even delayed PTSD situation going on? This sounds a lot like me this June, when I was definitely having some PTSD issues.Elainenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-1632414356274355352011-09-30T13:40:47.666-07:002011-09-30T13:40:47.666-07:00I feel your frustration and have totally been ther...I feel your frustration and have totally been there. The only thing that ever, ever helps me is to continually remind myself to be mentally present wherever I am physically present -- a lot of times when I'm in that mode it's because I am thinking about home stuff while I'm at work, and vice versa. Best wishes as you try and sort it out.<br /><br />ShelleyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-87790507717143112362011-09-29T11:50:25.129-07:002011-09-29T11:50:25.129-07:00Some unsolicited ass-vice - do you know about &quo...Some unsolicited ass-vice - do you know about "Getting Things Done" (the book and productivity strategy?) I don't really have a job that requires much of me in the "staying organized" sense, but GTD is a strategy that fancy people use for their complicated jobs, apparently with great success. And it's totally designed with the idea of getting all the junk out of your Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14574081826138707134noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-42792021488031638292011-09-29T08:36:16.465-07:002011-09-29T08:36:16.465-07:00It's hard to carve out enough time for work wh...It's hard to carve out enough time for work when you have a family, but it's even more important to be spending your work time wisely. From the little you've said here, I wonder if maybe you need to readjust your focus at work Some assvice: I wonder if a coach might help? Kind of like a therapist, but for work. They are expensive, but I have a colleague who is completing a course Denisehttp://wanderingbarque.com/everfixedmark/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-69091018534153073802011-09-29T00:19:45.267-07:002011-09-29T00:19:45.267-07:00Hey Snick,
I can feel your frustration. I know tha...Hey Snick,<br />I can feel your frustration. I know that feeling of thinking you've managed something decently, even with a bit of panache, only to be told you were off the mark. It's disorienting in a fundamental way.<br /><br />I offer you this column if you haven't already read it: http://therumpus.net/sections/dear-sugar/<br /><br />Read any entry. She can hone in on a person'Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12237344539200968281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-23506724147302229272011-09-28T19:01:50.448-07:002011-09-28T19:01:50.448-07:00And maybe, some of it is you're just being har...And maybe, some of it is you're just being hard on yourself?<br /><br />Such a life has to wear on a perfectionist, and maybe life for you right now will only accommodate "good enough"Mariellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06828072722718375335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-44675561237123921742011-09-28T12:35:54.153-07:002011-09-28T12:35:54.153-07:00My friend always asks how do I do it all... I alwa...My friend always asks how do I do it all... I always say not well. My kids eat a lot of hot dogs and nutella sandwiches, my house is messy, I yell too much, I mow the lawn only when absolutely necessary and I have a lot of clean unfolded laundry. It isn't the life I totally wanted but it is ok. I figure they won't be little forever.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-57034726068569063422011-09-28T12:28:02.404-07:002011-09-28T12:28:02.404-07:00Great post. I can totally relate--I am widowed an...Great post. I can totally relate--I am widowed and have raised my two children alone for the last 5 years. They are teenagers now. The work/family balance is hard. Just when I think I have one side under control, something pops up on the other, needing immediate attention. It's like playing whack-a-mole, though with a whole lot more at stake than winning a stuffed animal. I have Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-20405935453933554502011-09-28T07:00:19.454-07:002011-09-28T07:00:19.454-07:00I don't have advice really, just experience. I...I don't have advice really, just experience. I found parenting and working kicked my ass until my son turned 4.5, and then he was more independent and I got some brain back. Then I had another baby (!) but this time I seem to be retaining a bit more of me. I think some of it was residual grief-fog (from the loss of my first child) combined with the stress of starting up my life again after Shandrahttp://www.multiplicity.ca/blognoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-82761512958857511622011-09-27T20:34:43.647-07:002011-09-27T20:34:43.647-07:00It was, of course, totally wrong of me, but I had ...It was, of course, totally wrong of me, but I had to laugh when I read your first line. So true in my world, too. Why must we go through the same growing pains again and again?! <br /><br />Morale is a tough one when you are the manager. You need to fix it, but you cannot fix it alone. You need your people to meet you halfway. I have, when in that position, approached it in a very straightforwardmekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17917552705258680396noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-19742872605242141282011-09-27T20:26:28.023-07:002011-09-27T20:26:28.023-07:00I don't feel like I'm doing work or home p...I don't feel like I'm doing work or home particularly well either. And I've got only one kid and a partner to help. I think it's just the way for a working mom. Boo.Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03342557533259256831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-30410478611039005202011-09-27T19:49:08.718-07:002011-09-27T19:49:08.718-07:00It sounds to me like maybe you've got the wron...It sounds to me like maybe you've got the wrong job for this stage in life. Can you look around a little, see if there is something else that would come more naturally and require less of you?Alannahttp://www.alannashaikh.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-27399224905415800622011-09-27T19:47:15.577-07:002011-09-27T19:47:15.577-07:00I'm sorry. I know that feeling and I hate it, ...I'm sorry. I know that feeling and I hate it, too. Do you have anyone to talk to so that you can bounce ideas, thoughts or feelings? A friend or therapist? I'm all about maintining, so every now and again, I call up my therapist and get readjusted. Just a thought. Hope things get better for you soon.Aimeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15371122721416715477noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-20591206672911979012011-09-27T18:07:38.862-07:002011-09-27T18:07:38.862-07:00I can totally relate here. I just can't seem ...I can totally relate here. I just can't seem to figure out the doing a great job at work and doing a great job at home. I don't know how to fix it either and don't see things changing in the future but omly getting harder as our youngest gets older. Hang in there! At least you know that you're not alone.Peghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02162890081910497200noreply@blogger.com