tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post2408799868998994630..comments2024-03-20T01:12:06.791-07:00Comments on Snickollet: To Oregon or not to OregonSnickollethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14123630374052898460noreply@blogger.comBlogger52125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-23825383490535883912009-01-28T20:36:00.000-08:002009-01-28T20:36:00.000-08:00My husband and I are going through a similar situa...My husband and I are going through a similar situation. We are ready to leave where we live but we have a house holding us back. We actually decided to rent out our house on a lease option and rent a smaller and cheaper house in town - this has helped us financially but we have been here the last 11 years and are ready for a change. We would love for our house to sell but it also needs a TON Tiffanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07909496319072321333noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-238208223559348912009-01-28T20:12:00.000-08:002009-01-28T20:12:00.000-08:00snicki'm sure you could find someone by networking...snick<BR/>i'm sure you could find someone by networking through friends/family in Oregon who would love to have you rent out their guest house or basement apartment,etc in order to help them make their mortgage payment. Also, many of the schools with special needs programs like to blend the school population with non-special needs kids. Typically, (at least here in Georgia) they start the classesAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-36858464729628280412009-01-28T20:11:00.000-08:002009-01-28T20:11:00.000-08:00As a single mom to a young son, I can relate to a ...As a single mom to a young son, I can relate to a lot of what you're dealing with. One thing I wish that I had done differently is move less often than I did. Stability is key for young children...and the more you move, the less stability you can give. The end result is that you're moving to Oregon anyways. Why put your kids through the upheaval of two moves in order to get to the end result?<BR/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-38227821465915205782009-01-28T14:50:00.000-08:002009-01-28T14:50:00.000-08:00I'm sure I don't have to say it, but your writing ...I'm sure I don't have to say it, but your writing is fantastic! Considering your blog following, why not write a book in your (little, I know) spare time?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-29734851979377091802009-01-28T13:44:00.000-08:002009-01-28T13:44:00.000-08:00Temi --Snick's kids are receiving social security ...Temi --<BR/><BR/>Snick's kids are receiving social security death benefits, which all minor children who lose a parent are entitled to receive. The monies which fund those benefits are those which their father paid into the system during his life, money *he* would have received had he lived to retirement age. <BR/><BR/>Let me say that again, using smaller words: Snick's kids are getting their Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-45311650961072185432009-01-28T11:30:00.000-08:002009-01-28T11:30:00.000-08:00Well, I wish you all the best with your decisions....Well, I wish you all the best with your decisions. Tricky stuff.<BR/><BR/>I'm a dad and not a mum so my perspective might well be different. But I'd say that whatever you do it has to done for your own reasons and not because of this situation you're in just now. <BR/><BR/>You're right that your parents (if they are anything like mine) would really love to help, but it's asking a lot to impose Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-27210631578372824302009-01-28T09:41:00.000-08:002009-01-28T09:41:00.000-08:00This might be too late but maybe you could call up...This might be too late but maybe you could call up the bank that holds your mortgage and see if they will modify the terms of your mortgage. Some people have been able to get their interest rates cut these days without the haggle of refinancing. And maybe you can also appeal to your county/city assessment board so that your property taxes will be lower or even get some $ back from previous Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-70015409598332267922009-01-28T09:39:00.000-08:002009-01-28T09:39:00.000-08:00Snick, At least you could laugh at Temi's response...Snick,<BR/> At least you could laugh at Temi's response. Some people have no class. <BR/>Although I don't know you personally, I do admire you. When the time comes to make a decision, I trust you will make the right one for you and the kids. <BR/>Elaine from MTElainehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15181502426748112978noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-72384172102504398942009-01-28T06:29:00.000-08:002009-01-28T06:29:00.000-08:00I am delurking to mention that if you are looking ...I am delurking to mention that if you are looking into Reading Specialist Programs in the Boston area, you may want to check out the MGH Institute of Health Professions. They are located in Charlestown.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-37799539426656985582009-01-28T01:18:00.000-08:002009-01-28T01:18:00.000-08:00It sounds to me like you've already made your ...It sounds to me like you've already made your decision to stay & move in with your friend while researching ways & a timeline to move back to Oregon. That sounds good. <BR/><BR/>You said you wanted to do it before the twins started Kindergarten ~ good plan my friend!<BR/><BR/>I have a 4 year old & time flys! I live in the nw & I want to move to Oregon or Washington state Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-64808768256341458572009-01-27T19:57:00.000-08:002009-01-27T19:57:00.000-08:00The decision may make itself; after all, no decisi...The decision may make itself; after all, no decision leaves you where you are!<BR/><BR/>It sounds like you have two "right" choices to choose between. That's far better than two lousy options, right?<BR/><BR/>We went through a similar decision-making process recently; why not really put family first, move to Washington, and get jobs once we get there? Then, my husband rejoined the army, making Sadiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04042551936789254047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-59614372058383365072009-01-27T19:09:00.000-08:002009-01-27T19:09:00.000-08:00What a wonderful stage M and R are at! Hold my paj...What a wonderful stage M and R are at! Hold my pajamas sounds hilarious to watch :) So many things to consider in the moving equation... You may have discussed previously, but I can't recall - what initially brought you to Boston?<BR/><BR/>A couple of random "I have a friend who did..." thoughts on transitions out of journal publishing:<BR/><BR/>* one friend moved into a university communicationsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-13237440939410626922009-01-27T18:57:00.000-08:002009-01-27T18:57:00.000-08:00Snick - that is a lot to mull over, especially wit...Snick - that is a lot to mull over, especially with snarky comments like Temi. Seriously. <BR/><BR/>Come back to Oregon! It's snowing in Eugene right now! Don't you remember how pretty it is here with the big trees covered in snow? Univ of Ore has a teaching program and Western Ore in Monmouth is also a great teaching school. Plus its almost dead center between Portland and Eugene. I know you Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10028704081267027526noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-25043155092542144032009-01-27T16:05:00.000-08:002009-01-27T16:05:00.000-08:00Pointedly ignoring all of your very valid hesitati...Pointedly ignoring all of your very valid hesitations about it, I'm going to be completely unhelpful and again root for moving to Oregon.<BR/><BR/>Heck, I'll be your au pair :)MDThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03296473847987131734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-77911546677273179602009-01-27T15:25:00.000-08:002009-01-27T15:25:00.000-08:00You need to do things slowly, step by step and tha...You need to do things slowly, step by step and that is a great thing to know about yourself. I'm more of a "hey, let's move next month" kind of gal because once I know where I'm going, I start to feel like I'm waiting for that life to begin. I blame the military for that personality trait. <BR/><BR/>I wondered if Oregon was still in your future since you started dating. Which is not to say Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-67219695210380785252009-01-27T14:56:00.000-08:002009-01-27T14:56:00.000-08:00Catching up after being away. That would all make ...Catching up after being away. That would all make me overwhelmed and want to totally shut down. I'm amazed that you can just keep going.<BR/><BR/>What I admire is that you know yourself well enough to know that incremental (yet vital) might be a better transition than moving to Oregon right away. I do like the idea of sharing resources with another parent. It sounds like a challenging, but OTRgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12433339525588500502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-15973619768652199502009-01-27T13:49:00.000-08:002009-01-27T13:49:00.000-08:00Oregon - YES!I think that if you're making a move...Oregon - YES!<BR/><BR/>I think that if you're making a move anyway, moving in with grandparents that the kids know and love, and whose love for them is ABSOLUTE, is better than moving in with a friend. Granted, your friend is of course wonderful, but getting to know a grandparent is much different.) It seems that your parents are already really good with your kids and to you, so despite havingabernierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13145569216299255785noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-28743198795027378002009-01-27T13:45:00.000-08:002009-01-27T13:45:00.000-08:00I say go to Oregon, get a fresh start and be with ...I say go to Oregon, get a fresh start and be with family. You will have a little after the sale of the house right? That simple no but you will have to take the leap. I will pray for you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-79604651315074003272009-01-27T12:19:00.000-08:002009-01-27T12:19:00.000-08:00Have you asked your neighbor (co-owner?) if he's i...Have you asked your neighbor (co-owner?) if he's interested in buying your townhouse? Maybe he has a family member who might be interested?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-79799773454084400762009-01-27T11:48:00.000-08:002009-01-27T11:48:00.000-08:00My first thought after reading this post was that ...My first thought after reading this post was that you had a long list of reasons NOT to move back to Oregon. So while a move back there is rattling around in your head, it doesn't sound like now is the time to go. It sounds more and more like selling and moving in with your friend is the right move for you. No decision you make is permanant... once (if!) you move in with your friend, you can Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-31974891550985922092009-01-27T11:30:00.001-08:002009-01-27T11:30:00.001-08:00If you went back to school in Oregon (or anywhere)...If you went back to school in Oregon (or anywhere) you would be on a (usually) inexpensive student health insurance plan and could add the kids on, right? Maybe?The Dukeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13743198695088559705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-69078742054587200022009-01-27T11:30:00.000-08:002009-01-27T11:30:00.000-08:00I vote for going back to school, and Oregon, when ...I vote for going back to school, and Oregon, when it's feasible. It sounds like you would have a great support network there.<BR/><BR/>The thing about school is that you can often get health benefits through the university. Might even be some sort of scholarship for single moms.<BR/><BR/>Or you can write your memoirs. :) I know what you mean about the freelance thing, but maybe you could explore Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08520269852156590259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-80564809429417902962009-01-27T11:27:00.000-08:002009-01-27T11:27:00.000-08:00Okay - I am just a lurker on your blog. Somehow co...Okay - I am just a lurker on your blog. Somehow connected thru another blog, and keep coming back. You are so strong. I think about you a lot and appreciate you sharing through so much. As my husband and I contemplate our own twnhome houseing and selling... could you RENT your condo out and get enough to pay the mortage. Could you HIRE a rental management company to do it for you and break even Andreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07910513716342880657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-47259707066123070692009-01-27T10:51:00.000-08:002009-01-27T10:51:00.000-08:00This is anonymous Alice again. I meant can you re...This is anonymous Alice again. I meant can you rent out your place till the market gets better and sell. You live in Boston and there was a hot housing market there a couple of years ago. Seems like you live in a cute and nice neighborhood...<BR/><BR/>Good luck...AliceAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17626032.post-22251594590408739762009-01-27T10:45:00.001-08:002009-01-27T10:45:00.001-08:00All this advice is going to make your head spin. S...All this advice is going to make your head spin. So I'll just say good luck with some tough decisions. And holy crap, Temi cannot be serious, can she/he? Seems to have forgotten that you and John have both worked and paid into Social Security. It's not like you're sitting around the house eating bon-bons and getting welfare. Some people really need to get a grip. And I hope that if Temi ever has Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com